(Closed) Involve a Friend who’s not in the Bridal Party

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

Could she do a reading at the wedding?  or maybe a guest book attendant?

Post # 4
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m in the almost the exact same situation, but with two of my uni friends. One is a bridesmaid, but I didn’t ask the other and I am worried that she will feel slighted. But we also can’t afford to add another person to the bridal party and we also don’t have the space—our Chapel is itty-bitty. So, I totally feel ya!

I’m going to ask her to do a reading for sure. But I would be interested in seeing other suggestions, too! 

Post # 5
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Just let her be a guest and enjoy herself!    A reading, maybe.  Please, please, do not ask her to be a guest book attendant, that is NOT an honor in any way shape or form!  There is nothing wrong with having a good friend be just an invited guest.  There have been plenty of times that I have helped (willingly) a friend plan a wedding quite a bit and never expected to be asked to be part of the wedding. 

Post # 6
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011


Post # 7
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Is she an outgoing person?  Maybe ask her to be your MC.  That’s what I’ve done with a good friend of mine. 

Post # 9
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think giving her a reading or maybe making her an usher-ette would be great. I honestly would rather be a reader than an attendant any day as I get to enjoy the wedding more!

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