Post # 17
not so much… lol, I have to be careful not to blurt every single thought or idea I have as this caused a lot of frustration in the beginning, due to his need to solve everything for me 🙂 now I know I have a limited time frame or number of ideas that I can collaborate on with him-or I have to start by preparing him-I’d like to discuss something that is important to me for the wedding.
Once we figured this out-he is much more involved and really has an opinion, but it took a while to get here. I like having his buy in, that way, it’s not me feeling bridezilla or overwhelmed and alone. For a lot of stuff though, I just post here, since I’m in good company 🙂 Love weddingbee <3
Post # 18
my fiance is super involved and i think it is absolutely adorable. i have done most of the actual planning, but i have ran everything by him and he gives me his thoughts and opinions and has came to every single appointment, tour, and tasting. he always asks what he can do to help and has helped me with every DIY project too 🙂 i was really suprised at first because i wasn’t really expecting him to be so involved, but i couldn’t be happier. i am so happy that our wedding day will be a perfect reflection of us.
Post # 19
Fiance has an opinion on everything. It might be annoying at times, but I do like that he cares.
Post # 20
He’s not really involved and I love it. I was never one of those girls that dreamt of their wedding days, so really I’m just planning a really special day for us as I see it now. It’s much easier to make decisions when there are less opinions involved!
He’s had opinions on a few things and I got pretty frustrated with him because I think he had some sticker shock. If you aren’t planning or haven’t planned one you know how easy it is to think you will spend a lot less on something. That’s him. Since he hasn’t done any of the research, he’ll just form opinions on cost. But he really has no idea because he hasn’t taken the 8 hours or whatever to do research.
I made him look at the final 2 venues I chose and I asked his opinions on some invitaions (because I was undecided, if I knew which ones I wouldn’t have asked!). I’ll also need his help getting his addresses and he will have to help plan the ceremony. And I’ll need him to help me pick out what the men will wear.
Otherwise I am happy to just let him show up. I love planning though so I like that I get my way 🙂 I am the organizer and the planner in our relationship and he is a little bit of a mess. So it just works better that I plan.
Post # 21
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
He’s involved in the big things (venue, menu, music) and totally hands off on the rest of it. I basically show him pictures and say “I want this” and then it’s his turn to say “That sounds great sweetie!” Works out well for both of us 🙂 His friend asked him what he was going to wear for his wedding, and the sweetheart says “Oh I dunno, whatever she tells me to.” Heehee. Of course he can definitely veto anything if he doesn’t like it, and has a few times. But in reality he just wants there to be plenty of food and booze, and not too much time spent taking pictures – everything else is whatever makes me happy. Did I mention that I love this guy?!
Post # 22
Yes. In fact some of your vendors like our carterer, transportation people, dj, and baker I haven’t met and don’t even communicate with.
I handled the venue, wedding planner,florist, rental company.
Whether he was interested or not, he would have to help. On a good week I work 40/50 when a project ending or in crunch time I worked up to eighty hours. So if he wasn’t interested in putting in the work we would have gone down to the courthouse and gotten married.
Post # 23
@village_skeptic: How lovely!!
My Fiance has only asked his best man. I’m all like, “What’s the hold up?” He says he is not sure if he wants anyone else. I have four. It’s going to be so mismatched but I am not going to force the poor man to ask more guys if he does not want to.
Oh, no! That would not fly with him! I tried putting some outfits together for him (on the men’s warehouse website) and he looks at them and says “I am not wearing that vest!!” O_O I am just going to let him work that out for himself now.
Oh the dreaded sticker shock! I am usually the one with the sticker shock because I much more frugal than he is. When I say somethinglike, “It’s $800!” *shocked look of horror* and he says, “Eh, it’s not so bad.” No, no, no!!
Post # 24
Mine is “sort of” involved. We made the big decisions together — date, location, venues, menu, colors.
But anything specific has been pretty much all my decision and he is fine with that. (photography, music, decor, centerpieces, invitations, timeline, flowers).
He did request a few things, like a Stanley Cup cake, because we are having a Penguin themed wedding. At first he was totally joking and I kinda rolled my eyes, but I got together with a friend who has her own bakery business and we discovered a way to pull this off with cupcakes and I am SO excited to see it!
He also decided on our first dance song and suggested that we enter the reception to the Pens Anthem, which I also thought was an awesome idea.
So I’d say it’s split mabye 75% me, 25% him?
I’m happy with things this way.
Post # 25
@Hyperventilate: Do you have problems saying ‘fiance’ too? I have no problem typing it out, but saying it??? Ugh, NO! I keep calling him boyfriend by accident because that was one of the names I used to address him for years (“Hi, boyfriend! How are you doing, boyfriend!”) or when I can’t get away from using some variation of the title fiance, I call him ‘my intended.’ It sounds silly but it works for me.
Can’t wait to see them! I bet it was gorgeous!!
Post # 26
He’s quite involved but lets me take the lead 🙂 So far, we’ve agreed on every decision.
Post # 27
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
My Fiance isn’t involved and I don’t mind that at all, but at times I wish he was more supportive like I’ve been at work all day and now I’m planning a wedding – say thank you!!!!!
Post # 28
My Fiance works on the road – so he really can’t be a huge part of the planning when he’s gone for 2 months at a time. He does however contribute a lot financially and I do share things with him.
Post # 29
My Fiance has done as little as possible. Do I like it? Not a bit. Guess I always dreamed of having someone who would be able to make a decision. I wish this could have been team work. Essentially, I’m planning the entire wedding and taking care of every detail.
He’s just showing up.