(Closed) Involving Children

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

The only kids allowed at our ceremony were the 5 year old flower girl and the 4 year old ring bearer. Its definitely better to include them but more difficult for pictures. My ring bearer aas tired during pictures and had a hard time cooperating. He was being a 4 year old lol

Post # 4
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Almost 2 is a little too young for RB/FG IMO. They can’t reliably follow instructions or make it down the aisle without a potential freakout at that age.

Your brother is a good age for Ring Bearer, I think. Young enough to be cute but old enough to get the job done without hysterics.

Post # 5
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t bother. Why give yourself unnecessary stress?

Post # 7
257 posts
Helper bee

I think you should include them, but know that things may not go right and be ok with that. My Flower Girl and Ring Bearer are 3 yr old twins, and if on the day of, they decide they don’t want to walk down the aisle, that’s fine with me.

Post # 8
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think it would be wonderful to involve all of the kids. 

One approach could be to have two flower girls, with the older girl holding the younger girl’s hand; and two ring bearers (but you need not have two ring pillows/boxes), with the older boy helping to shepherd the younger boy down the aisle.

Another idea would be to have the two older children serve as junior bridesmaid/groomsman.


Post # 9
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MsGinkgo:  Personally I would say go without. lol – I am having four flower girls and a ringbearer. I hadn’t met with the family of the ringbearer in over a year (though we were pretty close otherwise). I had no idea he turned into a … brat? I can only imagine the amount of craziness that will ensue if I don’t rescind my invitation to him.

Downside/drama of it all is that his sister is a flowergirl and his dad is a groomsmen. :l I am all but stuck between a rock and a hardplace. Not to mention we weren’t going to have one till I found these stupid yellow gingham bowties – yeah, totally wishing I would’ve not asked….

Post # 10
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We had a ton of kids at our wedding.  We had the 8,7 &4 year old nieces as FGs.   We also had about 15 kids under 6 at our wedding.  They were cousins and my feeling was … seriously I’m having 3 Flower Girl if you think your kid can handle it … I’ll make them FGs/RB’s I didn’t care at that point.   No one else wanted their kids in the wedding they were afraid they’d run screaming.  Maybe you could ask the parents what they think their kid could handle? 


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