Post # 1
So kids will be at my wedding, there’s no way around it and I can’t imagine the kids not being there. I’m just trying to decide if I want them INVOLVED ie; ring bearer/flower girl.
FH Nephew – 8 at time of wedding
I have a half brother – almost 7 at time of wedding
FH Niece -2 at time of wedding
my Nephew – almost 2 at time of wedding
I’m debating having the 2 smallest as ring bearer and flower girl and the older 2 as ushers (beacuse I think they would be adorable) but I’m not sure if i’m just creating stress by including them – advice?
Post # 3
The only kids allowed at our ceremony were the 5 year old flower girl and the 4 year old ring bearer. Its definitely better to include them but more difficult for pictures. My ring bearer aas tired during pictures and had a hard time cooperating. He was being a 4 year old lol
Post # 4
Almost 2 is a little too young for RB/FG IMO. They can’t reliably follow instructions or make it down the aisle without a potential freakout at that age.
Your brother is a good age for Ring Bearer, I think. Young enough to be cute but old enough to get the job done without hysterics.
Post # 5
Don’t bother. Why give yourself unnecessary stress?
Post # 6
It’s going to be an all or nothing scenario, there’s no way I can have one but not the others etc. I get the feeling my FH wants his nephew in the wedding, he doesn’t generally have an opinion so if he expresses even a hint of one I know he means it. I mentioned I didn’t think I wanted to deal with kids in the wedding and he said we’d talk about it later – which means that he probably does. I’m just trying to figure out how much of a pain in the ass it’s going to be.
Post # 7
I think you should include them, but know that things may not go right and be ok with that. My Flower Girl and Ring Bearer are 3 yr old twins, and if on the day of, they decide they don’t want to walk down the aisle, that’s fine with me.
Post # 8
I think it would be wonderful to involve all of the kids.
One approach could be to have two flower girls, with the older girl holding the younger girl’s hand; and two ring bearers (but you need not have two ring pillows/boxes), with the older boy helping to shepherd the younger boy down the aisle.
Another idea would be to have the two older children serve as junior bridesmaid/groomsman.
Post # 9
@MsGinkgo: Personally I would say go without. lol – I am having four flower girls and a ringbearer. I hadn’t met with the family of the ringbearer in over a year (though we were pretty close otherwise). I had no idea he turned into a … brat? I can only imagine the amount of craziness that will ensue if I don’t rescind my invitation to him.
Downside/drama of it all is that his sister is a flowergirl and his dad is a groomsmen. :l I am all but stuck between a rock and a hardplace. Not to mention we weren’t going to have one till I found these stupid yellow gingham bowties – yeah, totally wishing I would’ve not asked….
Post # 10
We had a ton of kids at our wedding. We had the 8,7 &4 year old nieces as FGs. We also had about 15 kids under 6 at our wedding. They were cousins and my feeling was … seriously I’m having 3 Flower Girl if you think your kid can handle it … I’ll make them FGs/RB’s I didn’t care at that point. No one else wanted their kids in the wedding they were afraid they’d run screaming. Maybe you could ask the parents what they think their kid could handle?