- 11 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
A little background…
I am 30, divorced, two children
He is 24, never married, no children
His parents live halfway across the world and are unable to attend. I live 2300+ miles away from all my family, including children (ages 6 & 7). The children and my mother will be coming to visit me in March. My fiance and I are planning to get married (elope or civil ceremony) within the next two months. I’m lost as to whether we should just do it alone or if it is necessary to somehow involve the children (wait until they come with my mother).
My mother has been less than supportive of the whole arrangement, and it’s questionable if she can be civil during the visit–whether or not a wedding is involved. My father, who HAS been supportive, doesn’t get along with my mother. I’d love to have him come, but the thought of the two of them being together is stressful.
This will really be a non-wedding. No processional, reception or fancy things. Just…vows. I think I would really like this wedding to just be the two of us, but don’t want the children to feel left out. The parents, I can deal with.
What do you think? Is it necessary for my children to be involved or will they be okay not actually witnessing the ceremony?