- Miss Sweet Tea
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
This was such a helpful post!!! I am glad you asked this question. It helped me a lot too! 🙂
This was such a helpful post!!! I am glad you asked this question. It helped me a lot too! 🙂
IMO, you can do everything a DJ can do! You’ll have to put in the work he or she does, but maybe that’s worth it to you. The technology/resources are so good these days that it shouldn’t be any problem to make it happen. People have posted a ton of great advice in this thread. I’m very much intruiged by DJing my own wedding because my SO records music and already has the sound equipment and necessary skills. Plus he works in IT, so he’s a double threat. 😛
My experience with DJs has been less than stellar. The first was completely forgettable. The second was obnoxious and didn’t know what Cotton Eyed Joe was (seriously?). The best wedding DJ was the one who…didn’t say much, was really chill, and just picked tunes from his computer. Go figure!
It seems that an understanding of your guests is key. Make sure the music is loud, don’t allow pauses between songs, one or two slow songs every hour to account for couples/bathroom and food breaks, pick good upbeat danceable tunes, have a friend who’s really loud…yeah, it’s doable!
Yes- I am also doing an iPod reception. The feel/vibe of our reception is like an extended cocktail hour, not a dance party.
I’m pretty shy and really do not want a DJ calling attention to me and the groom and announcing things all night. To each their own, but this is my main reason for using an iPod.
If I could afford a live band, I totally would. But our venue is too small to set up a band and there is not enough $$ in the budget. But we did hire a harpist for the ceremony so there is guaranteed music in case the iPod fails.
We also want people to be able to talk/socialize. I really dislike it when it is so loud at a wedding you cannot talk to the people you are there to see.
Minutiae said, “IMO, you can do everything a DJ can do! You’ll have to put in the work he or she does, but maybe that’s worth it to you.”
While I agree with most of the rest of your post, I respectfully disagree with that statement. Experience and the ability to read a room is a unique and not so common ability, even for DJ’s. An Ipod wedding can be a sucess but an Ipod can not replace an experienced Wedding Host/DJ.
As for you poor experience with wedding DJ’s, I also agree as most people shopping wedding DJ’s have no clue what they are looking for or how to look. They are usually shopping price or pick a club DJ who may have little or no idea how to entertain a mixed crowd like one finds at a wedding.
Like I said, for those like yourself, who want to DIY, we happily rent them the gear. Afterall, it’s their special day.
@CE: I didn’t say an ipod could do everything a DJ could, did I? 😉 It’s a set of skills, not an enigma. It’s too bad good DJs are hard to find or maybe I wouldn’t consider them so easy to replace.
We were going to do an Ipod wedding until I read enough posts about it on here and elsewhere that really make me take a hard look at it. From what I understand, the most successful Ipod receptions are where the couple already has some great technical knowledge – the bride or groom works in a technical field and/or already has some great song knowledge, etc.
In my case. neither of us really has much taste in music, sadly LOL and I just got more and more worried about the ability to choose the songs, put together great playlists and not to mention handle all the technical elements. We even had one of our groomsmen lined up to be the MC and everything…we also have minimal announcements. But in the end, we hired a DJ that our hotel recommended. He’s on the cheaper side and I’m sure I could’ve found someone more “polished” for more money but I’d much rather just have someone reasonable in charge of the music so I don’t have to be worrying about it all night. Crossing my fingers but anyway, that’s the decision we made.
Minutiae, sorry if I misrepresented your statement. You did not say an Ipod can do everything a DJ can do!. You did say, “you can do everything a DJ can do!” My reply was to that overall idea. While I respect your opinion, I simply don’t agree with it.
I’ve never understood it when people dog on the idea of doing an iPod reception. I’ve been to several weddings that have done it that way and have had an absolute BLAST – plus, the couple was able to choose all of their favorite songs and dance to exactly what they wanted! Case in point – I recently went to two weddings, one had a DJ, and the other had a friend manning the iPod. The friend who hired a DJ had been on a budget and the DJ was pretty terrible…the one with the iPod had put a lot of work into choosing fun, danceable songs, and it went super well! So based on that experience, I’d say either way, whether there’s a DJ or an iPod, it all depends on how you do it/who does it, and what your guests are like (if they’re eager to dance and party, then it won’t matter who is playing the music!) If you do the iPod thing, you will want to designate somebody who will be willing to emcee the night (like announcing the first dance, cake cutting, etc.)
(Just had to add – I’m having a DJ and am definitely not opposed to doing a DJ – I just know you can have just as much fun without one.)
I have been to two ipod wedding and they were the most horrible receptions I have been too. No one danced and the MCs tried their best, but people just weren’t into the mood. Plus the one wedding was all slow or swing dance music, nothing in between. If you don’t know how to swing dance it was pretty alienating. Also, the play lists were very limited, so people couldn’t request music at all and you were stuck listening to what the bride and groom thinks is good music. I don’t think I will ever like an iPod reception.
All DJ weddings I have been to are fantastic! They have lights, good sound systems, and definitely know how to read the crowd and get people dancing! Plus they usually honor requests if it within a wedding appropriate category. Our DJ even included karaoke at no extra cost. Since I come from a family of good singers it will make for an interesting night. 🙂
I had an iPod reception and it was a blast and would never do anything different. One guest even mentioned that we had the best background music for a dinner at a wedding ‘cuz we had massive attack. That’s something you’ll probably never get from a DJ. My H put together an awesome playlist and had a big music library. I also love to flexibility of some designated people being able to choose the music they want. It all felt very personal and crazy fun without some outsider (DJ) to interfere with our fun.
I myself have been to other weddings with either DJ or iPod. I have never met a DJ I liked. All the wedding DJs I have experienced as a guest are awful and were often cheesy, awkward, and didn’t play the right songs. I have heard that a great DJ can make a reception awesome because he/she can also be an great MC/comedian. However, I figure that if one has to put so much time into research, vendor interviews, and $ into a great DJ, the cost/benefit analysis doesn’t work out well there. You might as well put that effort/time into making your own playlist and organizing friends/family/wedding coordinator to operate the iPod or make general announcements. The cost benefit analysis there is much better.
“It all felt very personal and crazy fun without some outsider (DJ) to interfere with our fun.”
Most better Wedding Host DJ’s (like the best wedding planners) spend a lot of time with their clients and, by the wedding day, they are not a stranger. Many of our clients become friends during the planning and remain friends for years.
I have never met a DJ I liked. All the wedding DJs I have experienced as a guest are awful and were often cheesy, awkward, and didn’t play the right songs.
A harsh statement some would consider rude regardless of the vocation you were slamming. That said, I don’t doubt your word. Fortunately more than a few here don’t share that opinion. It can’t be a diffirence in taste. I can only be a difference in experience. Sorry all of your experiences were bad.
I have attended a couple ipod weddings and I was not impressed to say the least. While the music at each was great to listen to, no one danced because the selections were not danceable and they were not able to change over to anything that did work for the crowd.
I’ve only attended a couple other weddings that had dancing of any kind and they hired djs and there was no issue of cheese (or anything else) and the dance floor at those were packed. In fact, at the first wedding I attended with dancing (which was very novel at the time) the dj did not say a word but just played music, which everyone loved. So it is possible to find a good dj that isn’t annoying but you have to be willing to look for one and interview them until you find a perfect match.
I would not actually use an iPod – your computer will allow more flexability on your big day. Also, make sure you have a backup laptop/iPod.
I dont think having an ipod dj is tacky,but I do think that you should have someone watching it or manning the controles sometiems. Espcially during special dances etc. On our wedding day you shouldnt be worried about anything, especially the music.
@dumpyourdj: self-promotion isn’t allowed on the boards. You can comment on the topic, but plugging the website you created is advertisement and is npt allowed.
To brides: I did an ipod reception AND ceremony, and it worked out great. People danced – hard – all night, and there were no awkward silent moments. We had a friend who is awesome at speaking in front of people be our MC. Him and his wife ran the different playlists for each part of the day. We made sure each playlist was way longer than necessary in case someone got distracted/things ran over to counteract the possible awkward pauses. As long as you have a good mix of fast and slow songs in a variety of generes, you don’t need to pay someone to make a playlist. It isn’t rocket science.
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