(Closed) Irrational but I’m scared to have a girl!

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe your girl will be a tomboy too!  She can be an awesome athete πŸ™‚

 

I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  Those are just gender stereotypes that don’t need to apply to your kids!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@roxy821:  I’m not a girly girl either! I do wear makeup and wear skirts/dresses sometimes, but I much prefer to play sports, watch sports, be outside, etc.  I’ve thought about this, too. I just think we’ll adapt if we have girls. πŸ™‚ Plus, if you do have a daughter she could be a tomboy and not want to do the tea party thing! I was a tomboy when younger and wanted to just play outside in the mud. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not going to say I know how you feel, as I’m not pregnant and have no children… but I will admit to being more than just a little uneasy about having a girl.  I obviously have no advice to offer you that will calm your nerves, except to say this:  even if you DO have a girl, entertain the possbility that she will turn out JUST LIKE YOU.  No tea parties, no high heels, no ballerina birthdays… just dirt and sports and overalls.  Maybe she’ll end up being a beauty queen, but I have my suspicions that you’d be just as proud of her and love her just as much πŸ™‚ 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I kinda know the feeling. I’m sure that if you’re the best mother you can be, you’ll be a great mother to a daughter or son. That said, I’m a little scared I *won’t* have a daughter. Everyone says boys are easier, but I grew up with only a sister, my dad was the only guy in the house, and I’m very girly. Girls may be more complicated, but that’s all I know. I just can’t understand little boys’ simplistic ridiculousness, and I’m afraid it would make me not like them, and be a bad mom to a boy.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, for one, my mother was also a tomboy and raised me just fine (I think, although I lack some perspective on that one!). AND, I was a complete girly-girl: pink everything, barbies to the hilt, etc. etc. Looking back on it, it wasn’t necessary for my mother to model that for me, or even for her to share in that stuff with me–it could have very well been my way of asserting my independence from her, which is an equally important step for any child. But either way, even though I wasn’t like her as a child in terms of our gendering, I love her all the same and I’m incredibly thankful that she WAS my role model growing up!

Besides–you know this is irrational, right? You could give birth to an effeminate, sensitive BOY who’s into fairy princesses and glitter πŸ™‚

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I agree with PP, what’s wrong with a tomboy, if that’s who she is? πŸ™‚

I have some friends who, when they had a daughter, tried their very best not to introduce gender stereotypes to their baby.  She was presented with blue and pink equally, with car and truck toys as well as dolls, and they also didn’t let her watch any TV that reinforced gender stereotypes.  She still chose pink and dolls!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Amazing things happen when you get that baby. I’ve known little girls raised by all kinds of women – divas, tomboys, ranchers, you name it. Little girls, just like little boys grow up to be excatly what they want in spite of their moms. You could have a little boy who has no interest in any of the traditional “boy” things and you’d still have to figure out how to be his mother, right? As the mom of both a boy & a girl (21 yrs old & 15) I think you’ll be surprised how sweet, calm and reserved some boys can be and how crazed and wild some girls can be. Mine were both shy & reserved…and as a toddler, my son would walk away from a playground if it got too crazy for him. Your baby will have his/her personality and you’ll want to be the best mom to him/her that you can! 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You’ll be fine. Besides men play tea party and dress-up all the time.  So even if you have a girly girl I’m sure you’ll manage to get suckered too.  Just think of it as a fun way to learn new things together?!  I know I’m a girly girl and I’ve had reservations about boys.  I can’t stand snakes, bugs, lizards etc.  But then I had a thought… my cat brings those things in all the time.  If I have a boy then I’ll have Darling Husband and the boy to help round those wonderful cat presents πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I was worried about having a boy for the same reason, I’m very girly. I wanted to play with barbies and dress up again. Not trucks and wrestling. But having a boy it just comes with the territory. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

All girls are different and so are boys. my husbands cousin is a girly BOY! My friend has a totaly tomboy daughter. she also wanted a boy and was dissapointed when she got a girl but i think it was good for her. got her to face up to her issues with other women. she could be very competetive and very uncomfortable with being feminine. whatever you have it will be wonderful and you will be a better person for it. just try not to put onto your daughter the sex stereotypes that were put onto you and you will be fine. wishing you a happy and healthy baby no matter what. 

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