Post # 1
I want to hear your stories.
Mine is flying. I know the statistics bla bla bla I do not care if im more likely to die in a car crash that is why its an irrational fear but its comew to a point now where I will not fly.
Our last booked holiday to spain I bailed out 2 days before and gave my ticket to my husbands brother. Lucky him he had a free holiday and i paid over the odds to get the name changed last minute.
I have flown numerous times, transatlantic and short haul. I have experienced the worse turbulance where I was convinced we were going to die and have also been in an emergency landing. That was the point I developed the fear. That is also the poiint where the dreams started.
I have these awful dreams involving plane crashes. Dreams where I am both a passenger and a spectator. These dreams are so vivid I wake up sweating and in tears. The worst thing about these dreams is they ALWAYS accur 1-2 weeks before a major air disaster. It has now become a thing in my household where I always tell my husband if I have a dream and you can bet your bottom dollar that in 1-2 weekws there will be an air disaster or incident in the news.
The lastest dream I had was 2 days before the russian plane crash last week. I cried and cried when I heard the news almost feeling guilty that I knew something was going to happen even though logically there is no way I could have predicted it.
I dont know what I can do. I would love to travel the world and take my daughter on holidays abroad, but this fear is stopping me being able to create memories with my family. I qam even scared to death when I hear a plane overhead.
I cant be the only one with a fear this strong. it effects me everyday. My heart goes out to all thre families involved in the recent tragedy.
Post # 2
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This happens to me. Exactly the same thing. I haven’t been on an emergency landing (knock on wood) but have been across oceans, in little planes and big planes, you name it. It’s been in the past year that I’ve developed this fear, and it’s been with all of the accidents this year, and since last march. I have the dreams and it seems like something happens right after. I don’t think its as freaky as yours, because I’m sure it happens often but I only remmeber when the disasters happen.
I think may you, and me too, should see a counselor about this. I’ve been wanting to go and just learn some effective relaxation techniques, and a way to change my thoughts around. I wish you the best of luck. This fear really, really sucks.
Post # 3
Dead fish. They freak me the f*ck out. They bloat up and float and their eyes gloss over and stare at you.
I don’t even like live fish, because I know they die so easily, and then they’d be dead fish!
Totally stems from my childhood. Three instances in particular:
1) My mom used to keep goldfish, but when they died, she wouldn’t clean them out. They’d just float up and rot.
2) The lake at my homedown has a nuclear power plant on it. This meant that parts of the lake were much warmer than they should be, killing large numbers of fish in that section. My grandmother would take us on a boat out there, and have us go swimming/tubing in waters TEEMING with floating dead fish.
3) For his sixth birthday, my severely autistic little brother got three goldfish in a bowl. He decided to move them around his room several times. By the next morning, two of them were dead in the bowl and the third was missing. A few hours later, I found it. With my bare foot.
Fiance keeps talking about how he wants a fish tank. Not on his life.
Post # 4
I am deathly afraid of snakes. I will and I have hurt myself trying to get away from a snake. People think its funny. Once they know you are afraid, they try to scare you even more. I am equally afraid of dead snakes and even fake snakes. I can’t help it. I love the woods and hiking but am almost too scared to enjoy them. I know the whole “they are more afraid of you blah blah”. No. They are not more afraid than I am.
Post # 5
Flying bugs, especially flies and bees because they’re so common. I absolutely hate the buzz sound and how they can change directions so quickly and get right in your face. Ugh my worst fear by far and I’m a pretty fearful person.
Post # 6
Flying. I truly hate it. I start to dread going on holiday weeks before I go. But I do go! Thankfully its not as bad for me as what you have explained. I find xanex helps…but there certainly has been a surge in flight disasters recently which is terrifying. Its so incredibly sad. Iv booked my honeymoon to Mexico for July next year, and I’m already freaking out a little, its over ten hours, that will be the longest flight I have ever taken!
Post # 7
You should really see a counselor to get help for your fear of flying. It’s much more likely to die in a car crash than in a plane crash. I fly more than 20 times per year and the more I fly the less scared I am (even though I also had an emergency landing once, and several times turbulences).
My irrational fear is of spiders. The smaller ones aren’t bad but I just hate big spiders.
Post # 8
BabyInACorner: Oh my goodness, im buying my daughter 3 fish for christmas, I hope I dont find one with my foot! I know what you mean though dead fish are freaky looking but I trained as a chef so regularly had to handle dead fish!
annon01: So so glad I am not the only one that has these dreams. My dream book says dreams involving crashing is something to do with anxiety. Well duh, my anxiety is about planes crashing!
I remember the crash here in the summer at air show in shorham (UK). That morning I woke up and went to work and told my manager about a dream I had of a plane crashing into the road, well just a few hours later a breaking news bullitin flashed up on the tv at work with the shorham airshow crash. The plane crashed into the main road crushing cars. We just looked at each other and didnt say a word.
I have thought about hypnosis but not sure if it actually works.
You know I have just thought back and I dont think that is when the dreams started, the year after our plane incident I found a 2nd world war military hat pin buried in my mums garden and a few weeks after that my former primary school acrooss the road were having an extension and they discovered a plane wreckage buried in their playing field, THAT is when the freaky dreams started, how bizzare.
Post # 9
dalia88: Depends what context you look at it. I a car crash is more survivable than a plane crash so therefore I am more likely to die in a plane crash than a car crash. I am most definately more likely to die in a car crash when you consider I wont be getting on a plane anytime soon!
Post # 10
I am also afraid of flying! I took an online course that actually did help to some extent. Between that course and some Valium I am actually able to fly when necessary.
Here is the link to the class.
Post # 11
chiweeniemommy: Thank you, I too have done a fear of flying course but it didnt help. I actually booked a flight immediately following the course and had a full blown panic attack when the plane was taxiing. They had to turn the plane around and call a medic for me. I delayed the flight by a hour. That was embarrassing.
Post # 12
I hate any kind of bug and NEEDLES are definitely my most irrational fear….
I was in the hospital a few years back and for the first time in my life they were trying to put an IV in my arm. I was screaming and swinging my arms around. four nurses had to hold me down I was flipping out. Then it was worse when it was finally IN my arm. I was absolutely hysterical. No one could calm me down I was hyperventilating I was so fucking scared. They ended up sedating me cuz I just wouldn’t calm down…. I’m still so upset just thinking about it….
Post # 13
Cheekie0077: I know lots of people with a fear of needles. I have never minded injections. I have a strange way or thinking about pain which helps me manage it better. I think of pain as sensations and if something hurts I just think to myself wow this is a new sensation and my brain seems to interprate the feeling as something other than physical, pain, its weird and hard to describe. Its how I managed labor with just two tylenol.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2016 - Cellar 222
For me, it’s getting shot. I’ve never been involved in gun culture or anything where there would really be any reason for someone to want to kill me but then I watch the news and there is another mass shooter killing people he doesn’t know at a movie theater or at school because he’s pissed at the world.
It’s gotten bad enough that I don’t even like going to movies anymore. 🙁
Post # 15
Dead spiders. They scare me more than live ones. And running out of money. I have an irrational fear that we will run out and starve and die. We won’t.