- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
whenever I read threads in this “emotional” forum I feel like all my little worries or stresses are insignificant, compared to what some others are going through. but here’s what’s nagging me today.
I can’t seem to shake some feelings of jealousy. This is a new feeling for me, one I normally don’t have at all. It started when I found out that my Mom is asking everyone who is coming to my Bridal shower to chip in for one big gift (a real picnic basket with place settings, that I’m actually really excited about). I first thought, that’s nice, so no one feels put out financially.
then last night my Bridesmaid or Best Man, and my unofficial Maid/Matron of Honor, mentioned she thought most people wouldn’t chip in money, but just bring something to put IN the basket. Like what, a bottle of wine, or some cheese? please don’t… I’m lactose intolerant, haha! anyway… I told her that I hoped everyone WOULD chip in the $10 that my Mom was asking for, since I know the basket is kinda pricey. I think she understood and I hope she passes it along to the other ‘maids.
but then I got thinking, seriously, all my friends are so broke. I try to be compassionate, but sometimes it’s frustrating. Like really, $10 is too much? My sister in law got TONS of gifts at her shower, like a complete luggage set that was worth over $500- just from her Mom and Aunt. and so much more… I hate comparing my shower or my wedding to hers, but I’m feeling kinda crappy about it.
basically, from what I know: one Bridesmaid or Best Man is gifting us gift cards that she is using points she’s accumulated from her credit card to help us get our cupcakes (so, basically free), another is giving us a friend discount on a boudoir shoot (again, free), one is gifting me a massage and facial treatment (pretty much free), and another is gifting us a voucher for a lingerie/sex shop that she bought as a groupon. sheesh.
maybe I would feel better if they had been more forthcoming with helping or even wanting to talk about the wedding. i’ve had to do so much on my own. my one Bridesmaid or Best Man, who suffers from depression, pretty much refused to talk about my wedding until 6 weeks ago.
I should probably just smarted up and be thankful right? I don’t even know how fabuous and fun my bachelorette will be… i hope.
(sigh) is this just all part of the bridal complex? I’ve been so excited for my wedding for so long, but this has been such a stressful experience too. Part of me now is looking forward to being done with the wedding, and just living happily ever after, ya know?