Post # 1
So I booked my photographer over a year in advance. I’m a graduate student and anything I can get out of the way early so I don’t stress, I’ll do. This photographer is very new so I was able to get great prices and I liked photographs she has done. But now that I’ve put my deposit in, I’m starting to freak. I keep looking back and nitpicking photos (Are they not vibrant enough?, Should this be in better focus?, Should I have asked to see more pictures she has done?). Then I start wondering if I should have tried a different photographer? I’m on a strict budget so I can’t go more expensive, but I’m freaking way too early in the game! Any bees go through the same thing? Did everything work out fine?!
Post # 3
This is a totally nerdy answer to your post, but if you’re a grad student, I think it will make sense to you: read The Paradox of Choice by Barry Swartz, and apply it to this and to all of your wedding planning. As a graduate student, you will appreciate the way he analyzes the pitfalls of decision-making and how committing to one option can cause anxiety because it forces you to exclude others.
Post # 4
@ebrownle: Right there with you. Our photographers were some friends of my parents’ friends — they are not established professionals (though they’re working on that), but they take great pictures, and will only photograph weddings for people they know (because, well, I guess if they screw it up they’d rather piss off someone they know than a stranger who might drag them to court?). My parents sort of browbeat me into agreeing to this — I had never met the couple, and was only aware of their work because they had been the photographers at the parents’ friends’ wedding where I was a guest. I saw only a few of their pictures beforehand, so obviously I was very concerned that this would turn out to be a disaster.
Well, it all turned out fantastic. I think what I found is that when people are green to wedding photography, they’re much more willing to accept direction than people who are old pros. So I had a few pose ideas I wanted to do, and sent the list to the photogs ahead of time, and they not only did all of them, but did them WONDERFULLY! I explained that I wasn’t a huge fan of the style of photos where the bride is overexposed so all you see is a big ball of white with a face on it — it can be cool for a few shots, but not for all of them. So they steered clear of this. I said I liked shots where the focal point is crisply in focus — not the more vintage-style where the whole shot is a little washed out. They did what I wanted. And I absolutely love all my pictures!
The moral of the story is, I think if you keep up a dialogue with your photographer so she knows what you want on the day of, you stand a pretty good chance of things turning out okay! You’ll only be disappointed if 1) she is BAD at what she does, in which case … run, run fast now! Or 2) she doesn’t know what you want, so she does something you DON’T want, and you end up unhappy.
Good luck, and hopefully it all works out!
Post # 5
@iarebridezilla: agreed. Plus, think of how much better your photographer will be in a year!
Post # 6
Thanks for the advice! I tend to overanalyze just about everything, so I knew for this wedding I would to. @KCKnd2 I will definitely look into that book because it sounds just up my alley. I just need to remember that more times than not, my gut decisions work out and yeah, in a year she’ll have so much more experience!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Are any of your friends good photographers? I knew that one of my girlfriends, who’s a great amateur photographer would be bringing her camera, so that helped alleviate any “what if something goes wrong” concerns.
Post # 9
Actually I do! Knowing she will be there does help with the anxiety. She helped photograph my sister’s bridal shower a little while back and did a great job getting the details. I didn’t want to ask her to help photograph my wedding because i knew it would put undo pressure on her, but when she’s relaxed and having a good time, she takes great photos!
I just need to stop worrying this far out! : )