(Closed) Irrational Photographer Fear

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee

This is a totally nerdy answer to your post, but if you’re a grad student, I think it will make sense to you: read The Paradox of Choice by Barry Swartz, and apply it to this and to all of your wedding planning. As a graduate student, you will appreciate the way he analyzes the pitfalls of decision-making and how committing to one option can cause anxiety because it forces you to exclude others.

Post # 4
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ebrownle:  Right there with you. Our photographers were some friends of my parents’ friends — they are not established professionals (though they’re working on that), but they take great pictures, and will only photograph weddings for people they know (because, well, I guess if they screw it up they’d rather piss off someone they know than a stranger who might drag them to court?).  My parents sort of browbeat me into agreeing to this — I had never met the couple, and was only aware of their work because they had been the photographers at the parents’ friends’ wedding where I was a guest. I saw only a few of their pictures beforehand, so obviously I was very concerned that this would turn out to be a disaster.

Well, it all turned out fantastic. I think what I found is that when people are green to wedding photography, they’re much more willing to accept direction than people who are old pros. So I had a few pose ideas I wanted to do, and sent the list to the photogs ahead of time, and they not only did all of them, but did them WONDERFULLY! I explained that I wasn’t a huge fan of the style of photos where the bride is overexposed so all you see is a big ball of white with a face on it — it can be cool for a few shots, but not for all of them. So they steered clear of this. I said I liked shots where the focal point is crisply in focus — not the more vintage-style where the whole shot is a little washed out. They did what I wanted. And I absolutely love all my pictures!

The moral of the story is, I think if you keep up a dialogue with your photographer so she knows what you want on the day of, you stand a pretty good chance of things turning out okay! You’ll only be disappointed if 1) she is BAD at what she does, in which case … run, run fast now! Or 2) she doesn’t know what you want, so she does something you DON’T want, and you end up unhappy.

Good luck, and hopefully it all works out!

Post # 5
116 posts
Blushing bee

@iarebridezilla:  agreed. Plus, think of how much better your photographer will be in a year!

Post # 7
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Are any of your friends good photographers? I knew that one of my girlfriends, who’s a great amateur photographer would be bringing her camera, so that helped alleviate any “what if something goes wrong” concerns. 

Post # 8
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@KCKnd2:  YES

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