Post # 1
so my 21st is in 11days and with buying a brand new car and the wedding costs we havent had a lot of money to throw arouund for my bday and i am okay with that, but Fiance has been saying that he has this great present for me lined up and goes on and on about how much i’ll love it but refuses to give me hints as i guess everything, and i mean everything.
well today he let slip that it involved paint and even off that small hint i guessed it was these block thingies that i wanted for our wedding as added decoration. (which i was just going to diy)
is it completly wrong of me that i am upset that thats what he is getting me for my birthday? like i think its irrational but i cant help but be upset that he didnt get ME something he got our wedding something?
I love that he listened and is getting involved though, gahh
Post # 3
I can understand the frustration and feeling a bit selfish. It’s your 21st birthday and your wedding isn’t until well over a year away. I think it’s better to pout and whine via WB because it’s a thoughtful gift and I’m sure he’s extremely excited about it. I’m the type of person who never has the heart to tell someone the truth.
Perhaps you could suggest that you don’t really want anything materialistic for your birthday though. I would say “oh, a birthday dinner and drink would be great for this year since we’re trying to save for the wedding..” …something along those lines.
Post # 4
Aww I’m sorry that you are disappointed. But in his mind, he did get YOU something because to him, it probably wouldn’t matter if he had that decor at the wedding or not so he did it for you. Guys get their wires crossed with that stuff 🙂
Post # 5
@Rouquine: thats what i was thinking better to whinge and moan to *stangers* rather then him and potentially really hurt his feelings and put him off helping me with the wedding.
Thanks for not making me feel like a crazy selfish little girl stamping her foot 🙂
Post # 6
aww I think you should just tell him you wanted something for you. For my bride gift (from hubby on our wedding day) he let it slip like a month prior that he was going to get me a new bikini for our honeymoon because he knew i wanted one. it was really sweet that he knew I wanted it, but I sat him down and explained that that wasn’t really the right type of gift. He was totally okay with it, I just made sure to tell him how sweet the gesture was.