Post # 1
I just want to vent about my irregular periods! I went off the pill in January (after 10+ years on the pill) and had three pretty regular cycles: 30 days, 31 days, then 34 days. The next cycle lasted a grand total of 73 days before I finally got a period that only lasted 2 days. I’m now something like 25 days into the next cycle and have been looking (pretty casually – no temping or OPKs) for signs of ovulation. Nothing yet.
What’s up with that?! And why would it be MORE regular at first and then less regular as time goes on?
It’s been over 6 months and we’re ready to start trying to conceive and I am feeling bummed that things aren’t a bit more regular. After hearing about all the struggles so many couples face, it’s got me worrying before there’s even any legitimate cause for concern. Boo.
I’d ideally like to take a more relaxed approach to TTC but already I feel myself getting crazy with thinking about it a lot, reading about it a lot, and ordering all kinds of potentially unnecessary things off the internet.
They say it takes the average couple up to a year to conceive, but it’s taken me no time at all to become obsessed.
Anyone able to commiserate?
Post # 3
@onmyway: I went of BCP in August and my cycles were all over the place too, at first they were 35-36 days, but then got all wonky and I had one that was 29 days, then 43, and then another that was 47! so freaking annoying. And it was really hard to TTC when I couldn’t even figure out when I was supposed to O. So I ended up going to get acupunture post BCP to work on fertility. I finally got my BFP after O’ing on CD 32 (likely another 47 day cycle). You said you want to take a more “relaxed” approach to TTC, but since your cycles are so irregular, you may benefit from using OPKs. I used them just to get a clear idea of when I was O’ing, in addition to paying attention to CM. I didn’t temp or anything as that was too much for me. TTC challenging enough, especially with irregular long cycles! But it’s possible! Getting to know your body is probably one of the best things you can do and I would reccomend trying OPKs, so you can narrow down when you’re going to O (even if it’s a long cycle) and not get too tired BD’ing all the time.
EDIT: I forgot to add that I got my BFP June 1, so it really did take about 9-10 months of being off the pill to get KU (but that was likely only 6 periods due to my stupid long cycles). I never thought trying to get KU would be so frustrating! LOL…
Post # 4
@onmyway: I feel your pain! I have had completely crazy long cycles for over a year now, preceeded by constant bleeding for a year – all caused I believe by hormonal birth control (I had normal cycles before taking it). Like the other poster said, TTC is manageable in our situation as long as there are no other complications, but I totally understand your frustration. Some days I could cry because of my long cycles I get so impatient and just want to be ‘normal’.
I hope your TTC journey is short & happy and your cycles regulate soon x
Post # 5
@onmyway: completely commiserate, and unfortunately I’m still dealing with wonky cycles nearly 2 years later (TTC 9 months). Hopefully yours is just sorting itself out post-BC, and will be right again soon.
I’ve found the best thing I can do is use OPKs, which I’ve been doing for 4 months now, so I at least know when I O. There are lots of websites and apps that ‘predict’ Ovulation, but they are usually based on the elusive 28 day cycle, or at least a regular one.
I’ve also been temping for a month, which I was SURE would be too hard/stressful, but I now LOVE, because I finally feel like I can rely on my body for something. I find it really easy.
So, no happy success story here (yet!!) – but lots of understanding!! And I do keep stories like @Kalamaz17: in mind, because they prove that wonky cycles aren’t the end of the world, as long as you learn to work with them.
Post # 6
my friend just got her first period after stopping BC after over a year. It’s amazing how messed up your body can be afterwards!
Post # 7
My periods never regulated after two years off birth control — I had been on BC for 10+ years also. They were ALL over the map anywhere from 19 days to 67 days, sometimes 28 or 30 days, there was nothing in my testing to indicate there was a cause like PCOS or hormonal imbalance. We tried for 7 (very irregular) cycles to conceive naturally, but we had no idea if or when I was ovulating. My doctor prescribed Clomid, and it worked the first month! 6 weeks pregnant now. I would definitely track your cycles and let your doctor know what’s going on.
Post # 8
Thanks guys! I spent the last two days reading Taking Control of Your Fertility and it was a great read! I can’t believe how little I’ve known about my own body and reproductive system! It’s really incredible!
And I’m never going back on the pill again! They don’t tell you anything when you’re 19 and just excited to be getting it on. Damn it. 😉
Post # 9
@onmyway: Agree with you there!! I wish I’d know half of TCOYF when I was in my teens, and I really wish I’d been more warned about the effects of the pill back then too. I started it at 17 thinking it was the thing to do, had my first boyfriend etc..if I could turn back time I would think twice before putting all those hormones in my body & confusing it. I know it works fine for some women – but for me, it was not suitable.
Post # 10
I wanted to give you all an update. I went to the doctor this week to talk to my doctor about my irregular periods. She thought it was probably just from going off the pill (it’s been almost 8 months now) and losing about 25 pounds since January.
BUT she ran some blood tests just to check things out and what do you know? I have what is called subclinical hypothyroidism! I can’t believe it because I’ve been feeling really healthy and haven’t experienced any of the common symptoms except for irregular/non-existant periods. Crazy!
I’ve felt sad and scared that it will impact my ability to conceive, but now after a processing it for a few days I feel hopeful and lucky to have caught it early. If left unchecked, hypothyrodism can be the cause of early miscarriage.
Anyway, I’m starting to take hormones tomorrow so fingers crossed it will help regulate things for me.
Just wanted to let you know in case anyone else is dealing with similar things!
Post # 11
I’m glad you know what was causing the problem. From what little I know, hypothyroid is a lot better for TTC than hyper. It’s safe to be on the “upper” drugs (for your thyroid) when you are TTC (and pregnant) but not the “downers”.
Post # 12
I wanted to give another update. After dealing with irregular periods and then a diagnosis of hypothyroidism, I found out a few days ago that I’m pregnant! Obviously it’s still early days and anything can happen (I’m basically freaking out and scared to death), but I’m very happy that after some doubt, at least I know my body and my husband’s body are cooperating!
My cycles never quite regulated, and I was ovulating on about day 30, but with charting and temping I was able to time things well.
Fingers crossed all goes well!
Post # 14
Yay! Congrats! So glad that it worked out. My periods were really irregular without birth control, so this is something I’ve always worried about. I’m pulling my Mirena in January, about a year out from TTC to see how they readjust. (I don’t have periods at all now)