Post # 1
J and I moved in together about a month ago. I let him slide on his portion of things because I knew he had one last car payment to make. Well he called to make sure that everything was taken care of. Turns out there was a $6,000 balloon payment on the end of his agreement. My son’s dad hasn’t been paying child support, so now I’m going to look for a part time job to help make ends meet. Then I overheard him talking to my sister this past weekend. He’s making payments ona $2,500 engagement ring for me. While I should be excited, I can’t help but feel a little peeved, A. I know it’s not the ring I picked out. The one I picked was only $1,000. B. He has a car payment he can’t afford right now. Which is leaving me stuck with all of the cost of living expenses.
I wish I hadn’t found out….
Post # 3
I’m sorry thigns are stressful right now. And ouch on the balloon payment! If it’s from deferring payments previously in the loan period, most places are willing to work those out as if they were just additional normal payments–not refinancing the amount but similar.
Chances are he made the decision on the ring before he was aware of/reminded of the balloon payment so don’t be too mad at him, he’s probably stressing out a bit, himself.
Post # 4
Oh I know, and I know I’m being silly about it, I just needed to get it off my chest before I took it home and have him see my frustration.
Post # 5
So essentially your paying for your own ring? I’m sorry. I think he believes its what you want and he really is doing it all for you. Its just not what you want. Maybe you should talk to him about it?