(Closed) Irritated at a bride (VENT)

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 3
    8444 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @EffieTrinket:  I’m sorry this sucks, but this wedding/shower totally made me LOL.  I guess I’m just in shock that someone would actually do this.  Classy.

    Post # 4
    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I’m sorry you are feeling taken advantage of. I think that, unfortunately, this just goes to prove that common sense isn;t all that common. Nor, apparently, are good manners and an appropriate sense of decorum. Le sigh.

    Post # 5
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @housebee:  I was just going to say the same thing. What a CLASSY gal. I’m sorry, I would not go to her wedding. What a joke!

    LOL @ the facepalm bruise! I think I gave myself a few reading this.

    Post # 6
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    when you say they aren’t serving a dinner or hors’ deouvres, will there be ANY food there for the guests? I’ve totally heard of cake and punch or brunch receptions and stuff and I think that’s totally cool (in fact breakfast food is my favorite!)… but is she feeding anyone anything? Is it during a normal meal time?

    I get being annoyed at what truly seems to be a gift grab, but I think you’re being very classy and sweet for going and bringing a gift and your well wishes 🙂 I hope at the very least you do end up having a good time!

    Post # 7
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it’s awesome that after all this, you are still willing to go. You’re definitely much more classy than this bride!

    Personally, I would bail on this affair. If it’s really a mass invite like that, she probably won’t even notice if you were missing. I like to give extravagantly out of the goodness of my heart, not because I was encouraged or ordered to do so by the recipient.


    Post # 8
    1748 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    This sh!t is a mess!!! I don’t even know what to say. I’m sitting here with a confused look on my face. I think I’d be tempted not to go. Who does a mass facebook wedding invite??

    Post # 9
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Ugh, Facebook invites to weddings are the tackiest of the tacky! Ack! (don’t even get me started on the honeymoon fun).

    This sounds like a lot of people I went to high school with (unfortunately). People just don’t really get the whole wedding etiquette thing. I don’t know if you’re being unreasonable or not, but I would feel the same you do. Honestly I’m surprised you’re still planning on going to this craziness. You’re a better person than me!

    Post # 10
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    O. M. G.

    I wouldn’t go. I’m not even gonna go into anything else but there isn’t a chance in hell I would go let alone give her a gift!

    Post # 11
    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Man, I agree with PP – I’d be bailing on this. If she’s just an acquaintain and invited 900 people, I’m not sure she’s going to notice whether or not you’re there.

    Post # 12
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Wow, I did a face palm too… There are actually people out there that think this is okay?! You are sweet for going – maybe you can teach her a thing or two about class.

    Post # 13
    5242 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    If I were you I wouldn’t even go..you barely know the girl anyways so why bother. Your definetly alot nicer than I am!!!

    Post # 14
    2715 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yikes!  I agree that this is clearly a gift grab.  It’s good that you’re going.  I’d probably go anyway just to see the mass chaos that will surely occur.  I’d also bring snacks and a flask.  Any gift I brought would be smaller than usual and probably off registry.  I hear ceramic roosters are supposed to be good luck.

    ETA: Please update us on how this all goes down.

    Post # 15
    1491 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    OMG….  she sounds like the epitome of the greedy, gift grabbing, concerned only about herself and wouldn’t know etiquette if it smacked her upside the head, type of bride!!     


    Yeah, I think her guests should all feel like walking dollar signs at this point….especially with all the pushes towards gifts and giving money.   


    Honestly, I know you “accepted” her invite, but I don’t think you are at all required or even expected to attend.  If she is that classy (and what is WITH not having a reception?? um, hello, do SOMETHING for your guests!) I wouldn’t bother going…especially as she is just an aquaintance and not a good friend.  

    Post # 16
    1066 posts
    Bumble bee

    @EffieTrinket:  I was like OMG, through this entire thing…gasp…But good on you for going and wearing yellow..Hope you suit yellow lol

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