- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I have an acquaintance, and have met only once but kept in touch a bit on Facebook. She invited me to her wedding verbally, and I said how sweet! And told her I would be there, since I thought that she wanted to be closer friends and was touched she was choosing to invite me.
Since then, I’ve gotten an invitation printed on plain copier paper A.) telling me to “feel free” to wear yellow and B.) reading as follows (yes, on the invitation proper): “In lieu of gifts we are taking donations for our honeymoon” (followed by the honeymoon registry address). It was printed front and back, and looks like about ten minutes of effort went into DIYing it. There are several grammatical errors.
A best friend of mine was invited to the shower AND the bachelorette party, and was asked to bring a gift to BOTH (the reason being that the bride wanted/needed lingeree, but that she couldn’t get it at the shower because her church friends were there.) The bride had 50 people at her shower, and the friend, amazed at that number, said “Well, at least everyone made it to the shower!” And the bride said, “No they didn’t” — turns out, she had invited 150 people to her shower!! Then this friend, who is in the wedding party, was asked to bring sherbert to the bride’s house. This was several days ago; the wedding isn’t even until the day after tomorrow! It’s something the bride would have had time to do, and the friend is beginning to feel taken advantage of with all these “little errands”.
Apparently she got nearly $1,000 at her shower, but she is still wanting people to give her honeymoon donations. The kicker? She is “honeymooning” in Dallas. Which is about four hours away and easily accessible by car. And lodging there is cheap, and they have an excellent mass transit system. A friend has speculated that most of that money will probably be going to handbags and shoes.
I am having to drive over an hour to get there, and it turns out they aren’t even serving a dinner or hors d’ouevres.
All this might not bother me so very much if I hadn’t gotten a Facebook invite to the wedding as well….that also went out to another 900 people. The description is six sentences long. Three sentences of that are talking about their registries at Bed Bath and Beyond and Honeymoon, and the wear yellow thing.
I have nearly facepalmed a bruise onto my head, but I did say I would go, and I am bringing a gift. And I am going to look nice and put on a happy face, because I don’t want to be an a-hole. But now I feel more like a walking dollar sign, and am feeling sorry for my friend who has had to go even further for this wedding than I have. I can’t help but feel really, REALLY irritated by the whole thing, and needed to vent to get all this out of my system before the day of. I know a lot of people are probably going to nail me to the wall for this, but I HAD to get this off my chest, because Fiance is dealing with his own stuff right now and I don’t want to badmouth her to people who know her. (BTW Identifying details have been changed for the sake of the bride’s privacy. I am irritated at her, but in the end, that’s my problem and not hers–I don’t want to hurt her feelings.)