Post # 1
Back when we first got engaged, almost a year ago, FIs parents offered us their time share weeks to use for our honeymoon. Great! We were thrilled – they had done the same thing for their daughter a few years ago for her honeymoon, and she went to Hawaii for 2 weeks. The time share is through Starwood, which has a range of options of places you can go, and ways you can use the points.
A few months ago, Fiance called to find out about turning the weeks into Starpoints, and we found out that his parents hadn’t paid the bill – to the tune of $1400. So now, we are just waiting for them to pay it so we can possibly book a honeymoon. They have been having money issues, so I’m not sure if/when they actually intend to pay this thing – but we can’t use it until they do! At this point, we have lost the chance to turn the weeks into Starpoints and stay at a Starwood property, and would have to go through Interval International – but I’m thinking that the time on that is running out, too.
How much longer should I wait for them to pay this thing, and free up the points for us to use? Fiance has asked them multiple times to do so, and they show no inclination of moving forward. I’m starting to get panicky, because I wanted this done and settled months ago, as airline flight prices just seem to get higher and higher every week we wait.
Post # 3
That’s not a fun situation.
From an outsider’s perspective? You should probably start looking for a plan b that doesn’t involve his parents points.
Post # 4
I think if it is very important to you to have a honeymoon you should just book it now with the intent of paying for it yourselves. If your Fiance has already asked them, he shouldn’t keep pestering.
Post # 5
You say that they are having money problems. Maybe they are embarassed to tell yoru FH that they are unable to pay the bill. I agree with PP and would book something now if you are worried about airfares.
Post # 6
Perhaps YOU could pay the bill? It’s probably still less than what you would pay to book something else. If they are having money troubles I’m sure that your honeymoon is pretty low on their list of priorities.
Post # 7
I understand the situation really sucks, but I also dont think its fair for you to be irritated at them for their money issues. Can you pay the bill so you can book it?? I would definitely not wait, if they are having financial issues, I’m sure a timeshare is the last thing on their mind to pay off.
Post # 8
Moose1209: Is on to something. If THEY don’t pay the bill, you’d be out some serious bucks to take a honeymoon anyway. Why not be altruistic and pay that bill for them? You’ll save some $$ on traveling, it will help his parents with one of their mounting bills, you’d get to plan “months in advance” as you wanted to anyway, and everybody’s happy.
Good luck to you.
Post # 9
Thats no good. I would start researching other options, just so all your eggs arent in one basket. That way if it ends up not working out and you dont get stuff booked in time you wont feel all the resentment towards them. Try to understand their money issues and as much as it sucks try to see past the bad parts. good luck
Post # 10
If I had an extra $1400 laying around, I’d love to pay it and help them out, but….I’m planning a wedding, and I really don’t. I guess what has me really irritated about the whole thing is that they sort of strung us along with this – we were counting on being able to use their points, and they made a big deal that this was their contribution to help us out with the wedding – and they just haven’t really been unfront with us about what their plans are. We really can’t afford the big tropical destination honeymoon that we were planning if we don’t have their timeshare to use for the lodging, so I guess it is on to plan B – local mini-moon, save up for a big trip on our own sometime next year. His parents are notoriously irresponsible financially, and I guess it was naive of me to think that they would prioritize this – but they offered, and they made a big deal about how excited they were to be able to do this for us – and I’m just dissapointed.