(Closed) Irritated with friend who also wants to DJ for me

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@hisluckygirl22:  Ehhhhh. This is kind of a toughy! 

It is nice of him to give you a friend discount, but is it worth it? Someone like this makes me nervous, I’ve dealt with his personality types before and for me they’ve never ended well. I would have to cut this man out of my life, but that is just me! 

Ask yourself; what is the worst that can happen? Think about it and decide if the worst was able to happen….could you deal with it? Would this be something you can get over with? Could you still be friends? Would your wedding happiness be dampered by his actions? Then ask yourself could you come back from the worst possible situation? If you answer no then I think it would be best to either hire a Dj or simply do an iPod wedding. 

I am doing an iPod wedding and I am enjoying it, I love coming up with our music and getting my hands dirty in this part of the wedding planning process. It would be a lot easier then dealing with his uncertinaty. 

Maybe you could talk to him about your fears if you feel comfortable enough doing that? Or would he blow up on you? I think you are being overly sensitive because this is YOUR wedding and you have an idea of how you’d like it to go…..NICELY! lol. and this guy has the potential to cause problems, I think you’re being protective which is perfectly alright. 

In my opinion I’d just go down a different path by choosing another Dj or doing your iPod idea and tell him that you and your fiance really want to build your own musical experience on your own terms. 

Post # 5
Member
1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Sounds like it may be time to cut ties, you say you don’t even know why you became friends to begin with….? I wouldn’t invite him. 

 

also, I am doing an iPod wedding too:)

Post # 6
Member
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I would cut ties. It’s your day and he doesn’t seem like the type to understand that.

Post # 7
Member
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Do the iPod thing and don’t invite him.  Nothing good can come of that situation, and to be honest, it already sounds like you don’t want him there,

Post # 8
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Another vote for the iPod… life’s too short to deal with drama and drama queens. Totally not worth your time to stress about his behavior.

Post # 9
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

1. The best advice I’ve recieved in my planning process is don’t use your friends. If they mess up at all then it can cause a rift in your friendship and it just isn’t worth it.

2. I have a friend who is a show stealer. She literally would not stop getting in pictures with my friend (who was the bride) while people were just trying to get pictures of the bride! She’s not invted to my wedding…

Post # 10
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If your wedding is not until June 2014, you have a lot of time to “drift apart” from this person and eventually you would have so little to do with him, you wouldn’t have to invite him.  

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