- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Ok, so this is not majorly upsetting, but it is irking me a little lately and I thought I’d ask some opinions of the hive.
Lately I’ve noticed that people are asking me more and more about setting a date for the wedding – work people, close friends etc.
We got engaged last July, I was on an internship in London so we were apart for a few months, then I started my first job, then it was Christmas, and we’re saving for our holiday to Florida in July so we’ve been kinda tied up money wise.
One girl said to me ‘If I got engaged, it’d be to get married within the year.’ Then when some colleagues and I were discussing someone else’s engagement the question came up of when they had set the date for – which was for next year.
This was immediately followed by another comment from a girl I work with who said ‘See that’s what I think, you should just do it, what’s the point in waiting?’
Last week I was visiting my dad with my fiance and we were with some of my dads friends. We told one guy we were engaged. And he was like ‘so have you set a date yet – or is it just a symbol of commitment?’
Erm…just a symbol? Well yes it’s a symbol – but we are going to get married! Just because we don’t have a date (or heaps of cash to plan with) doesn’t mean it’s not happening.
Now is it just me or is it a little ridiculous to imply that we should have instantly selected a date, a venue etc as soon as we got engaged?
I mean, forgive me for not having thousands of pounds within my grasp right now. We’re 25, we don’t have the money right just now and I’m getting a little tired of explaining it to people.
So bees, what’s so wrong with enjoying being engaged, and waiting until you have the money to plan? Have others had to deal with these comments/judgments?
I’m kinda of the mind that people should plan weddings when they want and how they want it. Who are these people who decide that engagement should mean marriage instantly, otherwise the engagement is meaningless?
Am I the only one who finds this judgment a bit frustrating?