(Closed) Irritating Future Sis In Law!!!

posted 11 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I find her a part in our Wedding Party?



  • Post # 3
    10844 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Oh my gosh are you kidding me?! This girl is out of control!!! When you first mentioned things she was doing, I thought she was like some younger teenager type girl. She’s married?! Are you serious?! You need to tell this girl to grow up and by all means, do not include her in your wedding party otherwise you will have nothing but drama to deal with!

    Post # 4
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    In this case, I wouldn’t include her. You don’t need that kind of drama on your wedding day. 

    Post # 5
    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I didn’t invite my oldest sister to my wedding, let alone ask her to be a member of the bridal party. Your Future Sister-In-Law sounds like she’d make you miserable if she were at all involved – do not ask her.

    Post # 6
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’m with

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    bakerella!  Don’t include her!  The stress is definitely not worth it.  If you must, include her on the day-of, and let her do a reading or something.

    Post # 7
    850 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Oh my gosh! You don’t need that negative energy anywhere NEAR you on your wedding day. Truthfully, she’s probably jealous that as the new daughter in the family, you’re getting more attention, but she has no right to take it out on you. Keep your distance until the wedding festivities are done.

    Post # 8
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Do not include her….weddings have enough of their own stressors and your bridesmaids are supposed to help you with the stresses, not create new ones. 

    You are not being mean or selfish at all!

    Just be prepared to have your FH back you up 100% on this.  You both need to present a united front.

    Post # 10
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Normally, I would say include her, but given these antics I say no way.  She’ll be lucky to get an invite.  Gosh what a piece of work.

    Post # 11
    1011 posts
    Bumble bee

    Can you not include her in the wedding party and say she should focus on her kids?  I know my ring bearer’s mom thought she was going to be in my wedding . . .  but she’d have been a bridesmaid-zilla.  She was great as the ring bearer’s mom.  This way she was still somewhat involved and could focus on her son.  Perhaps one of the kids could be in the wedding instead?

    Post # 12
    1560 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    absolutely not. there is NOTHING anywhere that says just because a man has a sister (or a woman for that matter) – that the sister has to be in their wedding. i wasn’t a part of my brothers (although I did do the videography – my college degree was in tv production)…and my husband’s sister is the drama queen in the family – couldn’t even make it TO our wedding. so nope. you do NOT need to include her at all.

    Post # 13
    2203 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    99% of the time, I think siblings should be included in some way. This is the 1% where I would say, No way!! If she talks that way to you now, and your FH is on the same page as you (since he also ignored her calls), she would be an absolute nightmare to deal with as a BM! Has your FH ever sat her down and talked to her?

    Post # 14
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I have a similar problem with one of my two FSILs.  We’ve decided to have her not be in the wedding party.  We will ask her to do a reading instead (along with the other Future Sister-In-Law, with whom I have no issues whatsoever).  I have plenty of great friends and a wonderful sister of my own who have been loving and loyal to me for a long time and who have been 100% supportive of our upcoming marriage.  Those are the people I want around me on my big day.  You should choose the people who love and support you to stand by you on your wedding day.

    Although I agree with NYE Gal’s comment that it’s very important that you and your fiance be completely in agreement about this.  Whatever decision you make be a joint decision.  Best of luck!

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