(Closed) IRRITATING SITUATION! I’m just so upset!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Wow. I’d be pretty irritated too. However, I do agree that it’d be rude to invite the parents and not the daughter.

Post # 5
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow so rude, especially asking if he is getting married and talking about a girl being single in the same email!  If you invite them, I would definetly let them know that it’s a rule across the board that you can’t afford to pay for family friend’s kids.  I’m sure the girl isn’t really that disappointed.

Post # 6
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1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

He doesn’t know her? Or doesn’t know her well?  Just curious.

I would go ahead and invite the parents, but not invite the daughter.  If they ask, just say that to keep the guest list down, no children of family friends are invited. Try to stress that it was an across the board decision and there are no exceptions.  Oh, and make sure, since they are friends of FI’s family that FI’s parents or Fiance is the one to send that message along.  No need for you to have to look like the bad guy!

Post # 7
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

yeah how odd?! but it sounds like they love him and just want him to be a part of the family, sort of like having a son again.. he should definitely say that jill has always been like a little SISTER to him. and that he has plenty of single friends he wants to introduce her too… i bet she has no idea what her parents are doing…

Post # 8
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It sounds more like a running joke than anything.  Gotta love that her parents are advertising that she’s single though.  Desparate to marry her off much?  I wouldn’t worry about it.  They may not even show up but I don’t think I would break your rules just to invite her.

Post # 11
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah, I’m guessing that since she is older it’s probably a running joke for them to try and marry her off.  Feel bad for her though that her parents feel the need to do that!

Post # 12
Member
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Well first of all the “one more” invites really begins to add up, so yes, he should be more considerate of who he is inviting, especially with your parents paying.  About the situation, sounds like Jill may be clueless about her parents embarassing comments but she is still not close to him.  I don’t agree that just because the parents are invited the daughter should be invited too, the parents are who he is close to. 

Post # 13
Member
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Evie, I had the same reaction while reading your post, also.  WTF?  So rude of the parents trying to pair off their daughter to a guy who is already engaged.  I would DEFINITELY NOT INVITE ANY OF THEM.  It’s just too weird.  And it is YOUR wedding.  You every right to be comfortable in your own celebration.

Post # 14
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563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I can understand the friend’s parents wanting to attend the wedding, but why in the world would poor Jill want to attend the wedding of a person she’s never met?  As a woman who married at 31, there was a certain point for me in which weddings started becoming a bit bittersweet, and I couldn’t imagine attending one in my late 20s or 30s in which I didn’t know anyone except my parents (especially parents who were putting a lot of pressure on me to get married).  That really sounds quite awful.  

Post # 16
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t think any of them should be invited.  Put him in your shoes and I’m sure he would feel the same.  

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