Post # 1
My boyfriend and I are getting engaged soon and he’s told me I need to make a final decision on a ring ASAP. I have picked out the ring that I want but I don’t know what size to get. I can get 1 carat, 1.25 carat or 1.5. I was leaning toward the 1.5 because they already have one set exactly as I would like. A yellow gold roung solitare. I’m just not sure if that large would look good on me. My bf and I are middle-class and I don’t want people to make comments or assume it’s fake. i don’t mind telling it’s moissanite but I don’t want it to be obvious either because I think it’s distracting.
My ring size is about 5.75 but we will be ordering a 6 since it will be summer when he proposes and I know my fingers may be swollen. I am linking the 1.5 carat here. Do ya’ll think it would be too big for my finger? I would also love to see your moissy rings!
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
I am a size 4 and have a 1.5 ct moissy. I think it’s the perfect size, and definitely wouldn’t be too big on your finger.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s too big at all, it’s a great size for your finger size.
I will say though, since it sounds like you’d prefer people not know that it’s not a diamond, that I don’t think it looks like a diamond. Maybe it’s the lighting the picture or something, but I just thought I would throw that out since it’s something you seem a bit worried about.
Although I can’t imagine someone asking if you have a “fake diamond” or anything rude like that.
Post # 4
I think if you love it, go for it so you don’t have “shrinkage” or regret. However, because you said you’re middle class and don’t necessarily want people thinking it’s “fake” or not a diamond, I would go more towards the 1.25ct as this will still look great on your size finger but not huge. A 1.25ct stone might also look more diamond like due to a smaller surface area reflecting all those colors.
Post # 5
I’m the same ring size as you and also have a 1.5ct. I think it’s the perfect size and love it! Have you tried on different size stones?
Post # 6
I had this same delimma. I went with 1.25 because I was nervous about 1.5. Sometimes I wish I had gone bigger. My finger is a size 8 though. I think my stone is big enough to be noticed and small enough to not make people curious..
Post # 7
I think if you are concerned about people thinking it is fake you would be better off going smaller.
Post # 8
2ct white sapphire. No one has ever asked me if it was real or a diamond. Now people have asked me why I’m working if my husband can afford that kind of diamond. But that’s only happened once and it was a drunk customer.
Post # 9
My ring is size 8.5 and I have a 1.5 equivalent moissy. I LOVE my ring!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2020 - NH Squam Lake Elopement
You should get the size you want! However, if you are really concerned with people thinking it’s “fake,” why not save up for an actual diamond or search for a vintage/used diamond? I chose moissanite for my own reasons, and because I love its qualities, not because I’m trying to pass it off as a diamond. So I got the size I wanted and it’s beautiful! I’ll post a pic but it’s not what you asked for, it’s a 2.5 7x9mm antique cushion.
Post # 11
I wear a size 6 also, mine is a 7.5 mm cushion, so I think the same dimensions as what you are looking at. I think it is a wonderful size! And no one has ever made a peep about my ring, and I give zero fucks what they think about it lol. I like this photo because it shows what it looks like from arms length
Post # 12
Here’s my 1.5 on a size 4.5-4.75 finger. I had the same dilemma as you and went with a 1.5 ct. When I got it I thought it was huge and almost sent it back for a 1.25. I’ve since gotten used to it and I absolutely love it; there are still some moments where I look at it and think that the thing is massive, but not in a negative way. I have gotten comments on its size, but never comments about whether or not it is a diamond. In my circles, most people have a stone <1 ct, so I sometimes feel I stand out a bit. I am very open about the fact that it’s a moissanite. Usually when I mention it to people they tell me “oh, I wouldn’t tell people that”. I don’t see why I wouldn’t — I love the fact that it’s a moissanite and I want more people to know about it!
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2005 - Shreveport, LA
It’s a perfect size for your finger and a beautiful ring! I’m a size 7 and have a 2ct cushion moissy. I say go for it and congrats!
Post # 14
Not many people comment. Typically, it’s a lot of oohing and ahhing when you first get engaged, then it dies down.
No one typically asks what the stone is. They will comment and how sparkly it is.
Post # 15
I have the same size finger as you (and my ring is 5.75 as well), and had the same struggle when designing my ring. I wanted a 1.25 carat moissanite, but the OEC was only available in 1 or 1.5, and I ended up choosing 1.5. My ring is inspired by a vintage ring I loved, and it was important to me to have an OEC. To be honest, even though I love it, I do sometimes think it’s too big – probably because it’s bigger than most of the rings I see around me. I’ve never gotten any questions about it, though, and the only comments came right after I got engaged, and they were all complimentary.
If I were to do it again, though – I think I’d go for a smaller lab diamond, rather than a larger moissanite. It can look grey or greenish-yellow in some lights. Moissanites have changed a lot even in the last couple years, though. Mine’s a Forever Brilliant from Joseph Schubach, set in platinum.