Post # 1
My SO and I have decided to get married and are now shopping for an e ring!! Since we don’t have a lot of money, we will do two weddings; one with just our parents and one in a few years when we have more money with all our families and friends. The problem is my SO is currently unemployed, making the ring search tough. We have money saved up but not enough to rationally be spending thousands on an e ring. I’ve always dreamt of having a diamond ring (like any other little girl who fed into the dream wedding scenario) and I have always wanted a 1 carat solitaire diamond. When we started looking at rings, I think my heart literally stopped when I saw the prices. But then I discovered weddingbee and saw all these posts about moissanite and find it to be such a great alternative. I can have the big ring that sparkles for so much cheaper. But now I’m worried that since my SO is unemployed and I get a 1 carat equivalent in moissy, people will automatically know it’s fake or assume it’s real and think we’re irrational for having spent so much on a ring. So my question is, can I still flaunt a 1 carat moissy without seeming fake and/or selfish?
Post # 3
1 carat is small to some, and large to others. It depends on your finger size, if it has a halo, etc.
Post # 4
Flaunt it. Who cares what they think. Upgrade later. If you dont have the money, you dont have it. You could also do a gem stone.
Post # 5
People that judge you over a ring are just being snotty, so who cares what they think.
Post # 6
I love my diamond but at the end of the day, it’s what it represents that matters and he could have proposed with a vending machine ring and I would still wear it proudly and flaunt it… you could always do bands now and get your rock later, when it makes sense financially for you as a couple… i’ve seen people with just bands and i kind of like the simplicity of it… whatever you get, own it and flaunt it…
Post # 7
if you want it, can afford it, and will be happy with it, i say get it. I don’t see the need for any other factor (i.e., what other people will think) to play into this decision.
Post # 8
Go with the moissy and if people ask how he could afford it (which most won’t) just say that he had a secret savings account or something. It’s none of their business anyway!
Post # 9
People are going to judge you, your ring, and your relationship wherever you go. People you know, people you just met, strangers on the street. ‘Tis the nature of the beast.
Whatever you do, just make sure you can be confident in letting it all bounce off. If you can do that with a 1 ct moiss, then do it. If you think you can’t deal with naysayers, then go with something smaller.
Post # 10
Do what makes you both happy. You already decided on moissy, which brings the cost of the ring down quite a bit, so I wouldn’t compromise on the size you want. I love my moissy and like it even more than my diamond solitare. So enjoy 🙂 PS. No one has ever guessed mine isn’t a diamond and get loads of compliments on my beautiful diamond! lol, but I do like to share its a moissy, why no educate people on othe roptions out there, right?
Post # 11
Thanks ladies, I really appreciate the comments and positive attitudes. I think I’m just so absorbed with the ring seeming super fake, although from the moissy rings I’ve seen they look gorg!
It’s also great to be able to share the news and my worries with other women who have gotten engaged since we haven’t made the announcement to our friends yet. My SO wants to wait to be able to officially ask my father’s blessing for my hand in marriage in person (even though our parents already know about our plans to get married) and can’t do it until we see my parents in June, then he wants to propose with the engagement ring. I’m lucky enough that he’s letting me pick out the ring exactly as I want it. I should mention that I want a simple wedding band and just a solitaire, so no extra bling on the e ring band. Maybe on the wedding band. We’ve also talked about our bands and I think we will get married with just my e ring and a simple band for him and then upgrade his band and get me a nice band for the big wedding in several years when we have more money. This way I feel both of my rings will incorporate both weddings. One is the first wedding, one is the big wedding. I think it’s a neat idea 🙂
Post # 12
@amille56: Yes you can! Who cares what people think.. How it looks depends on many factors so at the end of the day what matters is how you like or don’t like the way it looks on your finger.
Post # 13
If people ask how he could afford it, tell them you don’t know, or you think it was a family stone or something. My mom used to do that, telling people that it’s a family ring gets rid of the questions about size and price, even if you know the exact specs of it.
Get the sized ring you want, and own it and what it represents. Regardless of what people think, if you love it that’s all that matters!
Post # 14
@cirk: I thought about doing that but when I disucssed it with my SO he said he doesn’t want to lie about it. I think we’ll just say we got a really good deal on it. 🙂 I agree with you, I need to just get over what people think and just be satisfied with what I want. I don’t know why I’m so worried about it.
@the_future_mrs: I’m a size 7.5. I think I’m going to go to a jewelry store and just try on rings to see what the 1 carat would look like.
Post # 15
I have a moissy solitaire and a diamond solitaire and everyone assumes that they are both diamond. I even wear them on the same finger somtimes; and really, unless you are stairing at them closely, you can’t really tell the difference. The moissy sparkles a whole lot more in flourescent lighting, and looks more yellow (because the moissy is a J color equiv. and the diamond is a D, so it would be obvious anyways). If you get a moissy, I would suggest getting an enhanced/amora stone. They are beautiful, post pics when you get it 😉
Post # 16
@capergrrl: What’s the difference between a simple enhancement and an amora enhancement? Is there a difference? I’ll have to see if it’s in our budget to add the enhancement, because it does make the purchase quite a little pricier. I definitely will post pics! I’m trying to figure out which setting I want now. Ah decisions decisions! 🙂 I’m sooo excited to get it!!!!!