(Closed) Is 10 months to wedding, too long for ppl to care?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How involved were your friends and family from the start of wedding planning?
    Totally immersed to the point of obsession : (0 votes)
    Right in stride with me : (12 votes)
    21 %
    Phone a friend : (28 votes)
    49 %
    Friends & family who? : (17 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Definitely too far away for friends and probably family to really be invested yet…my friends started to get really excited like 2 to 3 months before, at which point I was already so over the wedding lol. I think it’s great that you’re being so rational about it and not getting upset…the truth is that no one cares about our wedding as much as we do!

    Post # 4
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    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If they’ve already gotten married, it may just be that they are over the whole “OMG YAY WEDDING” phase of their lives. I think I was way more excited about weddings before I got to plan my own. But now, i’ve kind of gotten it out of my system. Most of my family/friends didn’t stay up to date on what was happening with the planning. Mostly it was my mom, and my other friend that was also getting married, and then the occasional question from other people throughout the process. Nobody will be as into your wedding as you are!

    Post # 5
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    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    my immediate family is still really excited im 7.5 months away from my date!!!! we are hving a 16 month engagment and my friends are beyond jealous so they have not been supportive at all. excet one friend of mine which she was really mean to me when we first annouced our engagment sating taht we are dumb and just rushing everything ( my fiance and i have been together for 3.5 years already and add on 16 month engagment how do you figuare we are rushng anything. but now she just announced her engagement last week and they are getting married in NOV!!!!!! they met on flippin myspace and have dated for a year but he has been over seas and theyve seen each 2 times!!!!

    Post # 6
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    2058 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Once November December and the holiday family filled months are over after the New Year brace yourself bc people are gonna be totally in to your wedding and asking you all sorts of questions.  We got engaged on 12/12 and had a 10 months engagement as well.  Right away people were excited for us but it was smack in the middle of Xmas and New Years. Once January came our family and friends were totally into asking us questions about things. Now we’re 9 days away Wink

    Enjoy the engagement now, every second of it before you know it you’re gonna be deep in planning mode Laughing

    Post # 8
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    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My wedding is Oct. 11 and not everyone is super into it, but there are some key players already. My Man of Honor is going dress shopping with me, my mom, and grandma next week. I’ve had questions about colors from immediate family memebers and Maid/Matron of Honor and some friends. My sisters have been into looking around for bridesmaid dresses. And most people have been more interested in when, where, and what accomodations we have set up. (we live in a popular tourist town, so hotels have to be booked fairly early) Other than that, I’ve just been doing most of it on my own with Fiance.

    Post # 9
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My wedding is Aug 13th and everybody is contributing when needed.  All my BMs (but one) are coming into town to go dress shopping next month, when they see things I might like they email me, my mom and sister are maybe a little overboard on the excitment, but all in all… the energy is good at this point.

    I’m not overwhelming any one of them though, I might email one with this dress and another with this bouquet to keep everyone involved, but I don’t expect them all to care about everything.

    Good luck planning, I’m having a blast planning right now!

    Post # 10
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    No one even acknowledged the fact that I was getting married until about two weeks before when they needed information. Well i guess that isn’t 100% fair since I did have 2 showers and a bach party, but no one asked about the details at all.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I would expect interest and excitement to pick up after the holidays, especially if you’re going to be visiting family who will be seeing the ring for the first time, etc. 

    Have you chosen your bridal party yet? 

    Post # 12
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    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Yeah I can barely get my friends to get their bridesmaid dresses. I think they just feel like they still have a lot of time.

    Post # 13
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    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    i’d say too far. my entire engagement will be less than 8 months!

    Everyone was super excited when we got engaged, then interest fell off very sharply! You have to remember, you’re the one getting married. For everyone else it’s a celebration, but not something they think about daily!

    Post # 15
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    2465 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    for the most part, people besides my husband and i were involved in a kind of “as needed” way, except when the details closely involved them (like, my mom figuring out what she was going to wear, for example, or bridesmaids emailing dress ideas). people were excited and happy for us, but in terms of actual planning, it was mostly the two of us, until we got much closer to the date, and i didn’t expect more than that. i mean, people responded to emails and calls about specifics, like my brother and sil helped me evaluate photographers by looking at blogs i sent them, but for the most part no one was proactively jumping in to help. in part, i think that’s because we were really gung-ho and knew what we wanted, so they were following our lead. which really is how it should be, i think; no one’s going to care as much as you and your fi do 🙂

    ETA: that’s actually probably not a totally fair description–my moh and mom wanted to help more than they did, i think. but it was mostly a “let me know how can i help” attitude, and we had things pretty under control

    Post # 16
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly? I think 10 months is really too far away for anyone to be excitied about it. Two major holidays are coming up and August is basically three more seasons away. I bet your friends will be excitied in the spring. Don’t harrass everyone.

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