(Closed) Is 10 months too early for invitations?!?!?!!? DW/vacation

posted 11 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
5592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think for destination weddings it makes sense to send a more detailed save the date.  If you think the full invitation 10 months out makes sense for your group of family and friends, then you should do it. 

I’d probably go with a save the date saying to call/email if you want the full information packet.

Post # 4
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe you could send Save the Dates instead with the brochures and information, then the formal invitations closer to the wedding. 

Post # 5
1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with SapphireSun, just do a Save the Date with some info.

Post # 6
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’d go with a save-the-date with the website address and the name & phone number of your travel agent both printed prominently on it. You could also include an information card with tevel info if you wanted to, but it does seem a bit too soon for invitations.

Post # 7
5166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would send STDs rather than a full invitation, these can be sent very early to let everyone know the basics of where and when the wedding will be and then send the actual formal invites out about 8 weeks to the date.

Post # 8
4107 posts
Honey bee

i am having a destination wedding. and we sent save the dates with the date and location and our website link.  then i sent the invitations about 6 – 7 months out. i think 10 months is a bit too early. i can tell you that so far only immediate family has booked for mine and its now 5 months out.

i have some friends tell me they want to come, but its still too early to book. i almost wished i waited until 5 months to send the invites because i am afraid some ppl will forget! 

Post # 9
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think it sounds like a good idea! I know that etiquette says this, that, and whatever.. but, if you have special circumstances (like a DW) I feel like you can get away with whatever you feel will be most accomodating to your guests! Also, since your wedding is in January, right after the holidays, sending info that far in advance will give your guests ample planning/budgeting time to go to your wedding and still be able to do whatever they want for the holidays! 


I had to include this photo because I loooooooove this type of invite from minted.com and think your invitation plan would be perfect for them!! 

Post # 12
1245 posts
Bumble bee

10 months is definitely too far for formal invitations. We’re having a Destination Wedding that is going to cost people a bit of money to come to, so here’s what we’re doing to help them out-

Send the STD’s at 10 months

Send Newsletter at 9 months with ALL the details I have, travel, discounts, accomodations etc.

Send follow up Newsletter at 4 or 5 months

Send Formal invites at 7 weekswith formal RSVP due 3 weeks out.

Post # 13
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@SapphireSun: Agreed – do a Save the Date for now so people can start looking into pricing, and getting time off of work. I’m sure you’ll hear from friends who is planning on comitting to come in the process, even before formal invites go out.

Post # 14
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Send a detailed Save the Date card and set up a website with travel information. Most guests do not know a year in advance if they can or cannot attend. Plus, that invitation is going to get lost. An STD card can go on the fridge as a nice reminder of their possible upcoming vacation with a wedding to attend.

Post # 15
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - Sweet ceremony by the sea and sunset celebration on the North Shore of Hawaii

You’re great for trying to make this a seamless planning and traveling experience for your guests. I was a little obsessed in this area too, and i can share some of the bits that our guests found really helpful:

STD’s – 9 months out with a full wedding website with all travel information and resources included – airlines and rates, hotels, rentals and guest rates and rental cars and rates. The website was the most helpful and many of our guests booked their airfare soon after they received their STD’s. And, our STD’s were DIY {vintage postcards} which was also a huge plus 🙂

Invites – We’re sending ours out about 5 months before the wedding.

RSVP card due date: 4 months before the wedding. This will give us time to remind our guests and give them enough time to get the time off and still get a good airfare rate.

Hope that helps!

Post # 16
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If you’re trying to save money by not sending the STDs than by all means don’t send em, save your money for other things!!

 In the case of a destination wedding, I don’t think it’s EVER too early to send invites.  People have to arrange to take off work, schedule flights, possibly find babysitters…someone to take care of their pets…the list goes on and on. 

  In many cases that is the point of the STD…but the STD is really only like a head’s up “hey we’re getting married, here’s the date.”  If I were going to an out of state wedding..I would prefer to have the invitation and ALL the info up front as soon as possible so I could make accurate arrangements.  I would be more willing to go and travel if I got an invitation early! 

Nobody’s gonna be like “Oh they sent an invitation too early…that’s tacky and bad ettiquette, I’m not going!”  lol 

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