Post # 17
my cousin is going to be 11 next summer too, and she’s going to be a junior bridesmaid. Maybe talk to your cousin and tell her that since she’s getting to be so grown up and is so bright, that you think she should have a different role than a flower girl & be a jr. bridesmaid, then you can still have your 4 year old cousin be the flowergirl & your 11 year old cousin can still be a part of your day and have a special role!
Post # 18
I don’t think 11 is too old…a flower girl to me means a young girl. A teenager would be too old, but 11 is still a little girl in the grand scheme of life lol.
If she’s excited definitely don’t take this away from her! It’s such a rite of passage for little girls… this is probably her last shot! 🙂
I like the idea of having an older flower girl… she can lead the 4 year old down the aisle. She’ll put your little flower girl at ease & things will run a lot smoother!!
Post # 19
I have a 9 year old niece that I wanted in the wedding.. I think 9 is too old for a flowergirl, so she is a junior bridesmaid.
Post # 20
If you do decide to keep her as a flower girl to escort the younger girl, you could have her wear a Jr. bridesmaid dress… like have her dress be similar to the BMs, but have her act as the flower girl. Whether that would work with your overall “look,” I am not sure, but it’s just an idea.
I think that the main thing is just that she feels included and special no matter what. I can’t imagine an 11 y.o. turning down a chance to be a Jr. bridesmaid! But I do think that it might actually make everything go a lot smoother if she is able to “help” the 4 y.o. down the aisle.
You definitely have options!
Post # 21
11 is perfectly fine for a flower girl. I would consider anyone not yet in high school an appropriate age for being a flower girl (although I wouldn’t have the older girls throw petals, they could carry a small bouquet).
If you don’t want to make her the flower girl or junior Bridesmaid or Best Man, she could definitely be the guest book attendant, she could hand out the programs, or maybe the best job would be handing out the bubbles/birdseed at the end. She would still get a corsage for the day to feel special, and you could find her a dress in your wedding colors.