(Closed) Is 11 years just too long?

posted 6 months ago in Waiting
Post # 76
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2771 posts
Sugar bee

megm1099 :  Weddings are not “just weddings” – they symbolize, very literally, the lifeblood of being female.

Wait, what?  What does this mean?  What century are we in?  

 

Post # 78
Member
9718 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Wow. I would be beyond furious with your family. Talk about overstepping!! I’d also make it clear to your boyfriend that he needs to tell you when they are pulling this crap so you can step in and take care of it. 

Post # 79
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1727 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

sharpshooter :  Lol what?

You tell me why 99.999% of the people on this website are women. XD Women have a deep, age-old connection with weddings that men just don’t get. That’s my point. 

Post # 80
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1195 posts
Bumble bee

I’m glad your session went well, OP. 

I think a lot of his previous reticence can be pretty easily explained by the pressure he was receiving from your family. Obviously, a talk with them is in order. I would also talk with your SO and tell him he needs to let you know if things like this are happening in the future. this all could have been avoided had he said something up front. You could have reassured him much earlier. 

Post # 82
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1727 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

backwardsandinheels :  Being a wife shouldn’t be intimidating though! Not in that regard, anyway. I believe that because your man does not understand how to understand you, trying to explain yourself to him makes you feel ridiculous. And I don’t blame you. You should not have any reason to feel ridiculous. You are allowed to want a wedding.

Post # 83
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2771 posts
Sugar bee

megm1099 :  LOL at me?  Ok.  You said that weddings are LITERALLY the lifeblood of a woman.  Do you not see how ridiculous that statement is?  

backwardsandinheels :  sorry, I had to stop and pick up my eyeballs that rolled out of my head…I’ll go and catch up.

Post # 85
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2771 posts
Sugar bee

megm1099 :  I’ll just chalk it up to cultural differences.  

Post # 86
Member
843 posts
Busy bee

megm1099 :  You stated: “Women have a deep, age-old connection with weddings that men just don’t get.” 

Can you clarify/justify this assertion? Is it robust across cultures? Are you arguing it’s somehow ingrained in that extra X chromosome?

Post # 87
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1361 posts
Bumble bee

megm1099 :  “Women have a deep, age-old connection with weddings that men just don’t get.”

No, they don’t. No more than men do. For the vast majority of human civilization, marriages were arranged, so girls didn’t giggle and squeal and plan their “dream” ceremonies with their $2000 “dream dress” as they do now. All you see on this website is uniquely contemporary. 

Post # 88
Member
1727 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

wow you guys are fun I feel so popular XD 

If only all this energy went to giving advice to OP lol

Post # 90
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1727 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

backwardsandinheels :  I agree, and said in my first post, that you received excellent advice 🙂 I believe I have been gravely misunderstood, but all’s well that ends well! Glad you found the advice that helped your situation and you can go forward!

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