- 3 years ago
My husband and I had been together 11 years before we got engaged. We also met when we were young (our first term at university), so had some things we wanted to do before getting engaged (like graduating from uni) and a few practical issues finding a way to live in the same country (I had returned home after university and it took us a few years to get him to join me here). However, by the time we were done with our first degrees, it was no longer a question of if we would marry, as long as we first found a way to be physically together, but rather that we would, as long as we’d gotten our ducks in a row first.
We had a discussion about the topic once, where I ended up crying out of frustration because things were progressing so slowly, in my mind. My husband listened and then apologised for not having realised how much I wanted to get married. It still took a little longer for us to get there, as I wanted him to ask because he wanted to, not because I’d nagged him into it.
I had also decided, that my husband and the relationship I have with him was more important than getting married for me, so that’s also going to have played a role in my story. YMMV.
ETA: We married after 12 years and 2-ish months together and will have been together for 17 years this year and married for 5 next January.