(Closed) Is 12 too old for a flower girl? What other role can she play?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would put her as a junior bridesmaid.  12 is too old for a flower girl I think and a great age for a junior bridesmaid.  The ring bearer is for a boy not girls.  Again my opinion.

 

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Second the junior bridesmaid suggestion! When I was seventeen, I was the maid of honor in my aunt’s wedding – her eight year old daughter was the junior bridesmaid. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Thirding the junior bridesmaid! My niece will be 12 at the time of our wedding and that will be her role πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I also think that 12 is to old for a flower girl. I think Jr. Bridesmaid would be a could role for her. As far as the ring bearer, yes that is typically a boy role; however, she could still be the “keeper of the rings”; maybe that would be a better title for her role in that. There is also nothing that says she can’t be both the Jr. Bridesmaid and the “keeper of the rings”.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Personally (and I know this may not work for you) I would have an adult MOH/Bridesmaid (for the signing as a witness of the marriage license) and the 12 year old. If you WANT to put a label on it, I would say “Jr. Bridesmaid” … she can carry a bouquet made up of half of the amount of the adult bdmds. I also totally agree with the PP about her being both a bridemaid & the bearer of the rings.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I think that if all of your other sisters will be bridesmaids that it would be fine to have her have the title of bridesmaid or junior bridesmaid.  (Since she’s 10 now, you might not tell her that you are giving her that title yet… just in case your plans change and you decide to wed earlier…  I think 10 is too young for her to be a full bridesmaid, and her role as a member of the wedding party will obviously be limited…  She’ll be able to go to showers and special pre wedding teas, etc. But she’ll be a little too young to be a contributing shower giver or a hen night planner!  But she would probably enjoy being a part of a spa day or a shopping event. 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

and, oh, to avoid the drama of having to pick one sister over the other, just don’t – ask a friend instead.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The bearer of rings is a great idea for her.  The rings are the most signifigant part of the bridal party since it stands for the eternal union between the couple.  It was suggested to me for my will be 14 year old daughter.  She will be my Maid/Matron of Honor instead.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

OP said a role OTHER than a jr. bridesmaid, and she doesn’t have any sisters as BM’s.

I would say bearer of rings is a great idea, or if you have candles you can have her light the candles before the ceremony, or simply have her help by being a guestbook attendent or let her hand out bubbles/favors. There are lots of ways for her to feel included, I think.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

In my family, we also use young females who aren’t bridesmaids as “guestbook attendants.” Not sure if you’re having a secular ceremony or not, but she could also be a scripture or poem reader. Just some suggestions! Good luck with the planning – I know how tough it is to arrange a role for all of your family members πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My 15 year old stepsister will be my flower maid. She will have the same dress as the bridesmaids and just toss the petals. I gave her the option of doing that or being a hostess and she preferred to do that. As long as you dont try to make her look like a little girl, i dont think there is a problem with having an older flower girl. But i guess im just untraditional like that πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I don’t understand the role of “Jr. Bridesmaid” so, I’m glad you chose against that. I think she can hand out programs as people walk into the church. And she can also be in charge of the guestbook. OR it would be cool for her to cut the cake. My FIL’s are caterers and they say for all the wedding they cater, the bride has a good friend cut the cake. Future Mother-In-Law teaches the person how to cut it, and then the person does it herself/himself. That would be a great role for her πŸ™‚

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