Post # 1
I have found a venue that I am in love with. However, the timing of the event is a bit of a concern. Due to an earlier event in that space that ends at 5:30, the earliest invite time we could put is 6:3pm so that the parties don’t overlap. So this would be the timeline.
6:30pm – Invitation
7pm – Ceremony
7:30pm-8:30pm – Cocktail hour
8:30pm – 12:30am – reception.
So I’m worried that ending at 12:30 will be too late for a sunday. If people leave too early then it will be really dead for the last hour.
Post # 3
It really depends on your crowd of guests, and you know them better than we do. How do you think they would handle a later reception on a work night? Personally, I’m not sure I’d be able to stay for your entire reception when I had a whole work-week ahead of me. 🙁
Is it absolutely necessary for you to have a cocktail hour? You could eliminate that and move the reception up an hour if possible?
And, sorry, I’m not sure what your timeline means by 6:30 Invitation, 7:00 Ceremony? What’s happening at 6:30?
P.S. Welcome to Weddingbee!
Post # 4
@Gemstone: Thanks for the input. I assume many may take the day off on Monday. I think the older folks in our family will leave early, but maybe some of our friends would stay.
We are having the ceremony in the same place as the reception. The catering hall recommends that the time we print on our invitations is 30 min before the actual ceremony time to give people time to arrive. They will great them with Champagne and strawberrries while they wait and mingle in the outdoor patio area.
I would like to have a cocktail hour, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be a full hour, maybe 30-45 min. I also don’t think our ceremony will be a full 30min so that may shave time too. But it will still be after midnight when we end.
Post # 5
Honestly, I think it’s too late and I think some people definitely will leave early.
What about doing this on a Friday evening instead? That could work –
You mean 12:30AM not PM by the way 🙂
Post # 6
@kimm99: Yes thanks, I edited the PM out! 🙂
Friday wouldn’t work for this venue because of the higher price point and the increase in the minimum amount of people. Same for Saturday.
Post # 7
@dancer1692: As a person who generally arrives 20-30 minutes before a wedding invite says…please reconsider putting the true start time on your invitation. If I got there at 6, I would be extremely annoyed to be sitting around for an hour.
As for the time, honestly yeah I would leave early to be at work the next morning unless I was actually in the wedding or it was family, in which case I’d definitely stay.
Post # 8
I would be leaving around 10pm by the time we drive home and get makeup off I can be in bed by 11 and at work the next morning feeling not horrible.
Post # 9
I’d personally recommend against putting a time on your invitations that is 30 minutes before the event starts. I say that because I’m a stickler for getting to weddings early, so I’d probably show up at 6:10 if the invite said 6:30…and then I’d be stuck waiting almost an hour! Does that make sense? I understand the logic behind it, but I personally wouldn’t do it.
And some people may take Monday off, but just for your own sake, I wouldn’t count on it. Using myself as an example again, during my first year at my new job (I’ve been here just past a year now), I only had four vacation/sick days to use for the whole year. So as much as I may love my friend and her wedding, there’s no way I could use one of my four itty-bitty days just so I could stay late at her wedding.
That said, it’s totally up to you. You probably need to decide which is more important: having your wedding at this venue (and therefore having to use this timeline) OR having guests stay till the end?
Post # 10
When I receive an invitation to a wedding that starts at 6:30, I expect the ceremony to start at 6:30 or only a few minutes after. Although it is nice, I don’t think your guests need chanpagne when they are going to have cocktails in less than a half hour.
In consideration that Monday will be a work day for many people, I would shorten the cocktail hour to a half hour ( unless you really need the extra time for picture taking.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We had a Sunday wedding that went well after 11pm, but Monday was a holiday and the wedding was a local destination (60-90 minute drive for guests), so we knew everyone had off the next day and was staying overnight at a hotel 1 block from our venue. If Monday had been a work day for most guests, it would have been a different story and our guests would have been gone by 8:30 or 9pm.
Post # 12
I’d leave early. I wouldn’t take Monday off unless it was a family member’s wedding
Post # 13
My Dad is gettiing married on Sunday in a few weeks. I think he thinks a lot of people will be there till 1am or so.
If you remember, ask me to let you know how it goes and what the stay late split is between family/friends, self employed/regular jobs.
Post # 14
yeah, unless i took off of work the following day i’d want to get out of there by like 930 at the LATEST.
im a party pooper.
Post # 15
Thanks all for your input. I’m astounded by the rapid replies! I really appreciate it.
Thank you for those who expressed concern at the 6:30 printed start time. I agree that could be problematic for people who take that as the actual start time. So if I start the actual Ceremony at 6:30, that shaves off a half hour and has us ending at midnight.
If I also take 30 minutes off the cocktail hour, that also shortens it to 11:30. However, how do people feel about 30 minute cocktail hours? Does it feel too rushed? I don’t really need the time for photos since we are doing our photos before the ceremony. But has anyone done a 30min cocktail hour? How was it?
Post # 16
@dancer1692: A short cocktail hour doesn’t mean that people can’t continue to drink during and after dinner.
I would rather have a shorter cocktail hour than have dinner at 8:30 pm.