Post # 1
I am currently in a little pickle. I have been trying to chose my bridesmaids dresses for months and though my wedding is quite awhile away I want to make sure I give everyone enough time to save up for them. To give you a quick back story my bridesmaids very from single moms to college students to professionals. The dress I found is $99 and the shoes I found are $30. I am giving them earrings, necklaces, and bracelets as their gift and they are responsible for their makeup and hair. So in total I am asking them to pay $129 plus whatever their hair and makeup cost. Am I asking too much of them. I tried to be as cost efficient as possible but some of my bridesmaids still have an issue with it. HELP!!!!!!!
Post # 3
I personally think that seems pretty standard. Do they HAVE to have hair and make-up done or is that a choice?
If you’re interested in possibly cutting back, I think you could allow them to choose their own shoes.
Post # 4
$129 is a great amount.
The Bridesmaid or Best Man dress alone for my wedding is $149, and that was a hard deal to find :
Post # 5
@Waitingforthatdaywithray: Nope, that’s definitely not too much! Many bridesmaid dresses alone cost that much!
Post # 6
I think that’s very reasonable for a bridesmaid dress and shoes. If the shoes are a common color you could always just tell them to get their own shoes in that color so they have the option of using shoes they already have or finding cheaper ones.
Also, I would give them the option to pay for their hair/makeup or to just do it themselves. If you are requiring it be dont professionally then you should pay for it yourself.
Post # 7
I think that’s a good price!
Post # 8
I think it’s fine, but that’s because it’s fine for my own financial situation. You need to talk one-on-one with each of your bridesmaids and ask what they are comfortable spending and go from there.
A few pieces of advice, though:
- If you are requiring them to get their hair and makeup done, you should really be covering that cost. You can ask them to pay if you give them the option to do their hair and makeup themselves
- Your wedding is SO far in the future that you really should hold off on dresses for a bit. Everything changes! If you’ve already asked your BMs, you can ask for a guideline for budget, but just keep in mind, budgets change.
- If one is having an issue with the cost, perhaps you could privately offer to help her out (either gifting or loaning the money). It’s more important to have your girls standing next to you than having them stress about money and how they’re supposed to pay for all of this.
Post # 9
I’ve paid up to $200 just for the dress so I think that’s a great deal. The wedding I’m in now I paid $139 and am using shoes I already have. I haven’t picked the dresses for mine yet but I’m going to try to keep them under $150 if possible.
Post # 10
I think that is a great price for a dress and shoes before alterations. My girls paid $149 ish with tax just for the gown. They were free to pick whatever gown they wanted it as long as 3 were in black long gowns and 2 were in long plum gowns. All 5 of my girls ended up agreeing on one gown.
Question; why do they have to have the same shoes? I told my girls to wear whatever foot wear they wanted. All of them bought new shoes but the point was just maybe they have a pair of heels at home they could wear with the dress. No one sees the shoes.
Post # 11
I think it is a great price but try to consult with all of your bridesmaids to see what they are comfortable spending individually.
Post # 12
I would like them to have the same shoes because they match the floral design on the strap of the dress.
Post # 13
Thanks for the advice. I am not requiring them to get their hair and makeup done professionally. They are free to do it on their own.
Post # 14
I’d say that’s on the cheap side. $30 for shoes is nothing. I’m a bridesmaid and our dresses alone were $200 (the bride paid for half) and the shoes were $75. I didn’t think that was outrageous at all. $129 is good.
Post # 15
My girls paid 140 for their dresses so I think yours are totally reasonable! I am letting them wear their own shoes and I set up hair and make up but I’m not making it mandatory. So some of the girls decided to do just hair or just make up and I’m totally cool with that 🙂
Post # 16
I think that’s totally reasonable. I’d pay up to $150 for a bridesmaid’s dress without even batting an eye.