Post # 1
So, Been trying to decide on my bridesmaids and maid of honer, and the truth is I dont have a whole lot of female friends im really close to! Me and my close friends growing up kinda went seperate ways, and thought recently within the last year or so Ive made a few new female friends, But no one Im like SOOO close with. I Always think of a Maid/Matron of Honor as someone who knows you very well and has been a part of your life for a long time. So then that brings me to my 14 year old sister(im 22..). It seems fitting for her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, do you think its weird to have such an age difference, is she too young? Who knows if my friends I have now will even be friends anymore in the next few years, and i dont wanna look back on my pictures, and everybody thinks WHO is that girl next to you?? Lol what should I do?
Post # 3
You are the bride you can do whatever you want, I say go with it.
Post # 4
Do what feels right for you! 🙂
Post # 5
It’s your wedding, you should pick whoever you want standing next to you. Just be aware, the age will affect her ability to host/throw a bridal shower and bachelorette, so make sure other BMs or your mother are okay with pitching in!
Post # 6
I 100% think the Maid/Matron of Honor is the person you want to stand by you in that role, and I would consider 14 appropriate in your situation. Of course you know she won’t be throwing you a huge alcohol-filled bach party, but that’s not what it’s about. I vote yes!
Post # 7
No, it’s your wedding and she’ll be there for you. Ask her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor if that’s what a want. 🙂
Post # 8
If you want your sister to be your Maid/Matron of Honor then do it. Just maybe surround her with some people who will be able to help her if you plan on having bridal parties and a bachlorette. Good luck!
Post # 9
I’m going to say she’s too young. There was a post just recently about a Bee who had her 13 year-old sister as her Maid/Matron of Honor and was having trouble.
If you do decide to let her be yours, be prepared that she’s going to act like a teenager. Most teenagers don’t know the first thing about wedding planning, won’t be able to organize your showers or anything like that, and won’t be able to provide much concrete, useful advice when you need help picking colors, flowers, venues, etc.
If you just need a placeholder to stand next to you and not to help at all, then she could be a good choice… if she also doesn’t veto every color you pick or expect to be able to choose her own dress.
Post # 10
i think its totally fine. If you are having other BM’s they can help her out too.
Post # 11
I think that it is really sweet. I am sure she will be so excited. The only “issue” would be is you can’t expect her to throw the bridal shower and bachelorette. But your other bridesmaids can always help her out with those.
Post # 12
Go with what feels right! But realize that she may not know what she’s “supposed” to do, and/or may not be as involved in the planning as a Maid/Matron of Honor a little older. I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister when I was 21, and still had no clue. Looking back I feel bad I didn’t do more to help her. But she was a bride who liked doing the DIY actually by herself, and pretty low-key in general, so it didn’t matter as much. But if you’re someone hoping for more help, etc. from a Maid/Matron of Honor, you may have to ask her (instead of seeing if she offers) and kind of direct her as to what she does. I always think it’s so sweet when sisters are MOH’s. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
It’s really sweet that you want her as your Maid/Matron of Honor. Just keep in mind that your sister is not going to be able to fulfill the “typical” Maid/Matron of Honor duties- shower, bachlorette, etc. You won’t be able to rely on her for planning details, so hopefully you have other women who can help with that.
Post # 14
You know, you don’t have to have a Maid/Matron of Honor. Just BMs is still good!
14 too young, I would probably say yes. You know your sister though and I do think it depends on the person. Plus everything PPs have said.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I agree with other PPs (: Go for it if it’s what you want! The other BMs can help her out too, I think she would be really excited!
Post # 16
I think it depends on what you’re looking to get out of a Maid/Matron of Honor. Someone that young will not be able to handle most of the traditional Maid/Matron of Honor duties but that doesn’t mean that she can’t still have the role. Do you have any BM’s that could pick up her slack?