Is 2 years too early to start planning?

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: would you start planning a wedding 2 years in advance?
    Yes,I would start planning : (78 votes)
    66 %
    No,I would wait : (41 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 3
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would make your guest list now, or at least try to figure out a decent portion of it. That will define the budget and location and tone of your wedding. I did that when I was about 2 years from the wedding date. I didn’t book the venue until 1.5 years out, but I would have booked earlier if we had figured out the budget sooner. Also now is a good time to figure out if any of your parents would like to contribute money or pay for certain parts of the wedding. I wouldn’t go to crazy with details (colors, attendants, cake ect.) because you will probably change your mind between now and the wedding.

    Post # 4
    540 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would start now. There is always something that you can work on. Defining a budget would be a really great thing to work on as soon as possible. You could begin looking at venues even if you wait a tiny bit more to book one. You could begin to feel out what your look and colors will be. I would wait a bit to ask people to be in your wedding, and to decide on dresses, or your dress or the smaller details, but there is plenty that you can do now. Even just seeing what you actually like for invites, save the dates, photographers, what type or dresses. I would spend some time getting ideas.


    Post # 5
    673 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    you can book the main things like venue, photogprapher, videographer etc. The photographer we wanted for our wedding was already booked up when we enquired in April 2011 so people DO book way in advance.

    Post # 6
    7291 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’ll be honest that I have gotten a little jaded from being on this site for a while and watching how much things can change, even just within 6 months till your wedding. I feel like in 2 years a lot can happen…moving, financial crisis, job loss, babies, deaths, drama, relationship problems etc. And I don’t mean it like that will happen to you specifically, just what I have witnessed.

    I think its fine to make a rough budget, go venue shopping ( looking at diff venues), explore photographer talents, look at what style dresses you like , colors etc but I would be hesitant to be dropping big dollar deposits or purchasing dresses etc.

    Enjoy just being engaged! Talk about weddings, get ideas and as you move close to a year start make moves contract wise 🙂

    Post # 7
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I had a almost 2 year engagement. 

    So what we started first is to kind of have an idea how big of a wedding we want (in terms of guest list).  So I started shop around for venues seeing how much is the “min cost” for rental + food&drink.  That kind of give us a ball park how much money we need to save (if you have parents contribution, then it will be how much $ the family has to come up with).  Then we set a budget and go from there.  I highly suggest se the budget a little bit lower than maxing out your money budget right away.  Budget can always change.  If you have more money down the road, then you can upgrade a lot of stuffs.  Then you won’t have to get into debt/money problems later on.

    Personally I feel like it’s always good to do research first.  THe more info you have in hand early, the more bargaining power you have later on when you do need to book.  Especially for wedding dresses.  If you have been on the board for a while, you will notice there are a lot of people have dress regrets.  So I suggest don’t buy the dress right away, in case you change your mind.

    One advice though, a lot of vendors won’t want to talk to you this early as they know you won’t book right away.  So when I talked to them for initial quote, I usually told them (when I first got engaged), the wedding will happen in summer 2011.  If they follow up later on, you can always tell them wedding is postponed. 


    Post # 8
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Our engagemnet will be over two years by the the time we get married and due to many different things that ended up happening all the planning has been condensed into the last 7 months. I would at least get the basics happening. Start looking into venues and that kind of things

    Post # 9
    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You could probably start looking into venues and putting down deposits for the ceremony and reception spaces, but I would be hesitant to do much else.

    Like PPs said, a lot can change in two years. In this kind of economic climate, you may have vendors who are no longer in business two years from now. I was actually looking into a really nice bakery for my wedding cake, and they ended up closing up shop about three months ago. Go figure.

    Post # 10
    9 posts
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would start looking at stuff, creating a budget, and you could even book your venue. Starting early means you would have all the first picks for your date of vendors and such. You don’t really need to book anything besides the venue two years in advance, but you can start figuring out what it is you want so you are not so stressed when time gets closer.

    Post # 11
    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think you should absolutely start saving and getting some general ideas flowing…  I think booking any vendors or even sending out invites right now would be jumping the gun a little.  I advise you to Pinterest your heart out!  Haha (:

    Post # 12
    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    You can absolutely start planning!. h2b and i are getting married sept 2014 and we have already booked our venue and photographer. We had to book our venue so early as they were fully booked from march2014 all the way through. You will need a rough guest list before you start visiting any venues also you will need to have a think about a budget and start saving!

    Post # 13
    11166 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    No, not in my opinion.

    We had an 18 month engagement and I used every moment to plan our wedding and to be honest all our guests told us they could tell the high level of detail and thought that went into that day. It really made me feel good.

    Also, vendors book early. If you want your pick from the best and preferred it is better to start planning ahead of other brides. I would establish your guest list (for count purposes) and get an idea of the type of wedding you want with budgetary restraints etc. Once you have that in mind you can go ahead with a venue etc.

    I wouldn’t get your dress for a bit only because of all the dress regret that seems to be running wild (myself included).

    Post # 14
    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Vendors can book up super early, so I would suggest starting now and knocking the big stuff out of the way. We have had a two year engagement and booked our venue in the begining of 2010. It was the only weekend left in June. We also booked the DJ, photog, caterer, florist, etc.

    Word of advice though: As a PP said, WAIT on buying your dress. I bought mine in 2010 also and had a hell of a time trying to loose the weight I had gained in the two years that I bought it. Plus, in retrospect, I wish I would have waited for newer styles.

    Good luck!

    Post # 15
    272 posts
    Helper bee

    No I’m in the same boat as you. I got engaged  in February and we are planning for August 2014. Have started looking online at venues and places to have the ceremony. We made an appointment to go see a possible reception venue for this Sunday. I have started looking at dresses but wouldn’t  think about buying until near the end of next year 

    Post # 16
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Hah I’m in a similar situation. We don’t even have a date yet–waiting for my partner to get a full time job before we think about budget, etc. I’ve been doing some planning stuff that isn’t time sensitive. I know some things, like where we can have the wedding, colors, and attendents might change, so I’m sticking with things that won’t. I’m slowly adding to the guest list and have come up with a few different wordings for invitations. I’m also amassing inspiration for my dress, his suit, etc. “Inspiration” doesn’t count as “planning,” so I’m not worried if my inspiration changes–because I’m putting money down on anything. My advice is to spend some time (WITH your partner, so there are no “I hate that”-type surprises later on) developing a general vision for your wedding, but not actually spending money until closer to your date.

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