(Closed) Is 22 too young too get engaged?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

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emeraldbee2:  I was 21 when I got engaged, and 22 when we got married! it just means we get to love each other longer as husband and wife than the couples who wait to get married. I heard a lot of negativity when I got engaged about how 21-22 was barely old enough to drink, much less figure out who you want to spend the rest of your life with… but girl, just turn the cheek from negativity! It’s not worth it. You know the love you have for one another and only you know if it will work or not. Just follow your heart and dont worry about when being young is too young… you just get a head start with the one you love!

Post # 77
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think these things just come full circle. For example, I was engaged and married (the first time) at 22. I had been on my own, supporting myself and in college for several years. I was more mature than most people my age, but still – there’s something to be said about life experiences. I wish I had waited to get married. Maybe then it wouldn’t have ended in divorce. I know people say this all the time, but it really is true – people really do change a lot from their 20s to their 30s. So I don’t think people are trying to be negative, they are probably just relying on their life experiences and don’t want to see other people get hurt/struggle. I would tell my 22 year old self to wait until I was older – there really wasn’t any hurry. You know what they say about hindsight being 20/20. 🙂 But ultimately, it is your decision and you can only do what you feel is right. 

Post # 78
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I got engaged at 22 after being with my Fiance for 5 and a half years. I’m 23 now and will be married at 23. My Fiance will be 28 when we get married. Had I not been with my Fiance for so long, I would say that yes, 22 is probably too young to get engaged. However, it depends on the individuals and their unique situation. Afterall, my parents got married when my mom was 19 and my dad was 23 and they are still together today (over 30 years later)  

Post # 79
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I got married at 22, so I don’t think it’s that big of an issue. However, I do think you must be certain this is who you want to spend your life with. When my husband and I got married, we had been together for 4 years and we experienced some crazy things in that time but we stuck together and supported each other and that’s what helped us make our decision to marry. I was only the second of my friends to get married so I was in the minority but it’s been almost 2 years and now everyone is married or engaged it seems. You just may be first!

Post # 80
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Worker bee

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emeraldbee2 :  I realize it’s important to you to have your family’s approval but do what makes you happy! And regardless it sounds like your families are supportive anyways. What’s right for you might not be right for someone else so if you feel like you want to get engaged already than do it! It’s no one else’s business but the two of yours 😊

Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

No way, i was married at 22! Engaged at 20 

Post # 82
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

For me it would have been WAYYYY too young. But it’s all about the context of your own life. I was still just a kid (I might still be just a kid at 30?) and had not yet lived my life or learned enough about myself to properly share it with anyone else.

Post # 83
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Busy bee

Engaged at 23, SO was 26, married a year later. I think it’s a fine age, depending on the couple. 🙂

Post # 84
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

It’s not too young! I got engaged at 20 and then we moved in together a year after being engaged then when we were financially stable we started wedding planning and now we’re getting married in July (we’ll be 24). My mom and dad got married when they were 19 and 24, my mom was 18 when my dad proposed, they’re still together and have an amazing marriage

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

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hunting_bride :  didn’t see how old the tread was, just commented as it came up as recent 

Post # 88
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Busy bee

I think if you are having a long engagement, that will be much more well-received. Good luck.

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