(Closed) Is 27 too old to start a 3yr LDR?

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

It sounds like you are going to be in the same situation I will be facing here in a year. He will be going to grad school for 3 years across the country and I will working on my BS at 26 years of age. We plan to hopefully get engaged before he moves and continuing our relationship long distance. So, no, I don’t think 27 is too old for an LDR. Life takes you where it will, regardless of your age. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Why is engagment not an option? How long have you been together, if I may ask?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh okay. Based off what you said there I would agree first and foremost that you shouldn’t be getting engaged anytime soon — despite having been in a relationship for over 4 years, neither of you sound all that committed to make it work for the long haul.

My vote? 27 is an age in which you should not be continuing to spend years with someone who won’t commit to you. It really sounds like it’s time to end it and move on. If this was a relationship destined for marriage, the situation would be going much differently than it is.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t know how to say this delicately, but I don’t think that it will work out. Long distance is hard enough and 3 years would feel like an eternity. It can’t hurt to try it out though.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mg1363: I agree, with one exception, that’s just my point earlier…it CAN definitely hurt. It will hurt your chances of finding the right guy/relationship if you essentially continue to “waste” your time on the wrong one. And I think most women in their late twenties would consider that precious time to be wasting.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Is there any possibility of transferring your BS to where he will be? Or taking your credits there and transferring them back? Most universities/colleges allow this, it just depends on how far into your program you are. To transfer credits taken at a different school you;ll need prior approval from your school, but it CAN be done.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I’d say give it a few months (no more than 3) and re-evaluate the situation. From what you’ve said it doesn’t sound like the relationship is going into this separation with a whole bunch of positivity. If it’s blah in three months it’s time to possibly move on.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

@clear.kaleidoscope: You may enjoy being single! I can totally relate though. I’ve never been single for more than a month since I was 18 (I wasn’t allowed to date until then!) I’m not a chronic relationship person either- it’s just how it worked out. And probably because I met my husband when I was only 20- six years later we’re still together.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

HOLY SHITTAKE! Well, let’s see….silver lining…..Hmmmm Sometimes in life when faced with hard decisions, life will decide for you! Now you don’t have to debate about whether or not you should stay with him. The universe gave you a huge nudge in a different direction! Last time this happened I met my current SO and found the man who will most likely be my life-partner. Sorry it had to end like this though.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I did a LDR for 4 years. It is very possible. If you’re both in it and willing to work at it, then why not? 

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