(Closed) Is 3.5 carat round diamond too big on size 5 finger? It's an heirloom.

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
11651 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

brosie:  the family heirloom aspect makes the larger size understandable/acceptable, IMO.  I have an heirloom  3 ct emerald cut on a 4.5 finger and it’s fine. I hope it works for you! 


Post # 17
884 posts
Busy bee

If you love it, go for it! I have a 4.4 carat diamond on a size 5 1/4 finger with pave sides – not too big for everyday use. It doesn’t get in the way of anything, I have an infant – it doesn’t scratch the baby or anything.  Truth be told I travel internationally with it, workout in it, do dishes, everything and it’s fine. I have actually found that a full eternity band catches on everything and stones keep coming out so i have retired that to the safe.  If you like the large center stone than go for it! Best wishes!

Post # 18
5224 posts
Bee Keeper

brosie:  It is going to look huge, but not necessarily gaudy. Gaudy to me would be setting a 3 carat stone in a triple halo with side stones and then adding 25 diamond stack bands. 

Heirloom rings are so special. I think it is at least worth checking out 

Post # 19
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

brosie:  My stone is also a family stone. It’s been in my family for aroun 170 years. It is an I color diamond and I can’t see any trace of yellow. I do think that the stone reflects more pink/red/yellow colors than blue but I still get blue flashes too. I personally prefer it to the “whiter” colors because it doesn’t seem as cold to me somehow but to each their own.


My stone is a 2.4 carat center on a size 6 finger.


Post # 21
1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wear a 3 carat diamond on a size 3.25 finger. The ring itself is a size 3.5. I don’t find it too big at all for daily wear and wouldn’t mind one bigger! haha. Mine is a g color.

Make sure the cut and clarity specs are decent too though — visible clarity issues or a lower grade cut can make a large stone look bad fast.

Mine also looks WAY less huge in realy life, but here are a fee pics:

Post # 22
9544 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Generally that would be larger than I would prefer, but the allure of having an heirloom ring would probably overshadow my hesitation at wearing a stone that big.

Post # 23
9595 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Generally yeah that’d be wayyyy too big for my taste. I wasnt even down for 2 carats and I have a size 5.5 finger.

BUT, if there’s a free glorious diamond just sitting there why not? Especially if there are good family memories associated with it, that kind of trumps size preferences.

I would check it out in person though. I would infinitely rather have a gorgeous excellent cut/sym/polish/clarity 1.5 then a cloudy poorly cut 3.5.

Post # 24
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not too big! I have a 3 ct on a size 4.5 finger, and it doesn’t feel large at all for every day wear. I wear it in inner city schools all the time, too. Honestly, 95% of people won’t notice your ring. Those who do will say “that’s pretty” and go on with their lives.

Post # 25
3036 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Personally I can’t imagine having that kind of $$ on my hand so I think I would feel uncomfortable wearing it… and afraid someone might try to steal it when I’m alone. <br /><br />Is that the only diamond they have or just the most exciting one? 

If you decide to wear it, I think a big stone like that looks best in a simple solitare. 🙂 <br /><br />Here’s a fun chart with different sizes on a size 6.5 hand (apparently the ‘average’). However… my princess cut .5 looks a lot bigger to me on my actual hand than this photo.

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Post # 27
9173 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

mine is also a heirloom diamond but we redid the setting.  i have 4.5 ring size and a little smaller ring.

at first i thought my ring was huge, but i quickly got used to it.  now it feels normal size and sometimes i barely feel the ring on my finger.

Post # 28
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Too big? No such thing!! Esp when it’s free! Go for it!

Post # 29
533 posts
Busy bee

brosie:  Hi! I thought that this chart may help you. The chart below offers carat weights, and finger sizes and when you connect the two, you get a percentage that is either blue, black, or an orange color. The percentage pertains to finger coverage — how much the carat weight would cover the area of your finger — and the color pertains to the proportion of your finger. Black means that it may be too small, orange means it’s just right, and blue means that it might be too big for your finger size. This is just a guideline, but it can help put things into perspective when making a decision. However, it’s all about your preference. The chart shows that a 4 carat ring on a size 3 finger would be way too big, but to the person wearing the stone may disagree. Hope this helps! 

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