Post # 1
My husband is 40 and very ready to have his first child. I’m 31 and sort of ready. I do want children but i’m a little scared of being pregnant and getting fat. I’m a little scared of giving birth. I’m scared of giving up my free time, i know this sounds so selfish but i’m just being honest. Right now we go as we please, if we want to go away for the weekend then we go. If i want to stay out a little late with girlfriends at dinner then i just send him a text, no worries. But, i’m scared that i will no longer have time to myself, that i will get fat and that he will no longer be attracted to me when i’m pregnant or after i give birth. We are going to wait 1-2 years because i told him that i want to finish my MBA, he said ok but that he wants to have kids soon. He said he supports me because he knows i want to get my degree. I think i’m using this as an excuse to give myself a bit more time. I will be done with my master’s end of 2011 and it will be time to get pregnant. Is 33 pushing the envelope to having kids?
Post # 3
Honestly it doesn’t sound like you are ready to have kids right now. You can have children until you are in your late 30s without having problems. My parents had me in their early 30s without any problems. You should just worry if you wait another 10 years.
Post # 4
I don’t think that 33 is pushing the envelope. It takes a while to get ready to have children. At 29 I feel the baby bug… I would LOVE to have children with M. But I am apprehensive because we have three children (him two, me 1) and they are rather self sufficient, do I really want to throw a fourth kid into our brady bunch?! I think you’ll be perfectly fine and the weight is a moot point. I lost a lot of weight after my son was born and gained tons years later… I definitely think if you are healthy and have a reasonable diet you’ll be fine.
Post # 5
I can’t say personally but 4 of my cousins had kids after 35, so 33 seems like it’ll be fine. Having kids is a huge decision. If you’re not ready, then you’re not ready. Waiting a few years seems like a good idea.
Post # 6
No way are you too old! My mom had me at 31 and my brother at 35 and she loved it, she got to have her 20’s to have fun!
Post # 7
35 and up is when they start testing for downs and other genetic anomalies (don’t know if i spelt that right) 🙂 so you have time! just take care of yourself, and you will know when you are ready to have a baby!
Post # 8
i sure hope not because i hope to start at 31 at the earliest. 🙁
lots of people i know have had kids well into their thirties. heck, my mom’s mom was 40 when she was born and my mom turned out fine.
Post # 9
While fertility rates do start to fall after the age of 30, there is plenty of time for the majority of people to have children. There may be some additional testing, but once again, not a reason to not have a baby. I know at least 6 people who are over 35 and pregnant right now; my FI’s mom was 43 when he as born!
Post # 10
I’ll be 32 when we get married and 33 three months later – we’re hoping to try for a baby pretty soon after the wedding so I’m hopeful that it all goes well. TONS of my friends (my age from school/college) are having first babies now so I hope to be blessed like them! But one thing I would suggest is to be confident that you’re ready (I don’t know if anyone is ever 110% ready – there’s always things to wonder about/be nervous about) but just to be confident about the decision.
Post # 11
My friend just gave birth at 45. I myself am 38 and the dr. has told me that I’m 100% fine to have kids – but if we have them I won’t want to for about 5 more years so I will probably adopt if we decide to have them.
Post # 12
As long as you are in good health, 33 is fine. I know plenty of people (including my mother) who had chlidren into their late 30’s. What’s more important is discussing your concerns about having children with your husband. You can still travel with children and he can take care of children if you want a night out with your girls, but make sure you are mentally ready and both on the same page before you start having kids.
Post # 13
Meh. My momma had me at 38 and I have all my fingers and toes. They’re making great advances medically these days as long as your healthy, but hey nobody says you HAVE to have kids. Enjoy your time.
Post # 14
My mom had me when she was 33. I’m fine and if you keep up your general health, you should be fine too. Honestly, I’m glad because by then she was ready to sacrifice to be a mommy. She had done the early kids thing too, but my sister and I were stragglers. Mom admitted that she got to enjoy having us more because she was prepared. No matter the age you choose, there is comfort in knowing that you really are ready. Since you’ve decided on 33 with your hubby, make sure that you take some time to prep yourself (I know I’d end up letting the time pass and look up like “Pregnant? What..you mean NOW?!!”).
Post # 15
Thanks everyone for the wonderful feedback. I’m at ease. Thanks again and hope everyone has a Happy New Years.
Post # 16
I’m 38 and pregnant with my first. My partner’s mom had him when she was 38… I think you have plenty of time 🙂