(Closed) Is 4 Inches Too Tall of Shoes for Bridesmaids?

posted 10 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: Bridesmaids Shoes - Is 4 Inches Too Tall?

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  • Post # 3
    6880 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly I would let your BM’s pick their own shoes and height. Not all women can walk or handle 4 inch heels.

    Post # 3
    7285 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You should probably ask them! Heels are tricky and very particular when it comes to women! I’m sure they will be willing to be somewhat uncomfortable for your day but there is a line.

    Post # 4
    5667 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Not if they’re comfortable wearing them. Have you checked with your BMs to see if they mind sky-high heels?

    Post # 5
    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think the issue would be comfort. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man before and we had to wear 5 inch heels. Usually I can tolerate these heels if there is a mix of sitting and standing, but the ceremony was about 30 minutes long, then we had to do a receiving line, and then dance with our specified groomsman. Yeah, my feet were pissed off by the end of all that. I would suggest giving them the option of a lower heel or flat, at least for the reception.

    Post # 6
    10282 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    There is not a chance in hell that I could ever wear those. Then again, I don’t really ever wear heels.

    Do your girls normally wear heels that high? I would ask each bridesmaid if they’re comfortable wearing them. No-one else will be able to tell you if they’re too high when we don’t know your ‘maids preference. 

    Post # 7
    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    My feet would hate you if you put me in those shoes.  Not from a heel standpoint, but from a strappy sandal.

    I’d ask them and/or let them find their own shoes.

    Post # 8
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’d keep looking for something with a lower heel. Not only will they probably become uncomfortable or a danger when walking down the aisle ( you don’t want anyone tripping in the middle of the ceremony), but your friend who’s 5’9″ is going to be over 6 feet tall. Awkward for her, and possibly her groomsman, not to mention she’s really going to stick out in a bad way in your wedding photos. 

    Post # 9
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would let them find their own shoes in a given style and color.  I’m not a big heel person, but would probably wear those because they strap you in. Whereas if you gave me a two inch pump, I wouldn’t be able to walk in it without it slipping off.  4 inches is a lot to ask, though… I think a lot of non-heel people stay at 3 and under.

    Post # 10
    1002 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would ask your girls. I know if I was in that position, there would be no way I’d be walking down the isle in 4 inch heels (but I’m not a heel type of girl, maybe they are!).

    Post # 11
    1826 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would honestly let them pick their own shoes.  If you are absolutely set on all of them wearing the same shoe, discuss with them and go with a lower heel.  I was in one wedding where the bride had all 8 of us wear 4 inch heels and whilst I do regularly wear heels and enjoy wearing them, those shoes were torture.  By the time the ceremony was over, all of us were grimacing in pain and gripping the arm of our groomsmen whilst sort of limping back down the aisle.  It was terrible.  Do yourself and your Bridesmaid or Best Man a favour and have them go shoe shopping with you.   There are too many variances with feet size and shape to have a ‘one shoe fits all’ sort of thing, especially for that many Bridesmaid or Best Man. 

    Post # 12
    562 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I would definitely get input from the bridesmaids…maybe even let them get their own shoes in a color you pick. I know that I love really high heels, but some of my bridesmaids do NOT, and they would die if they had to wear 4 inch heels all day. Especially since one of them is already over 6 feet tall.

    Post # 13
    2260 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    I definitely think that you need to find a heel shorter, those are goregeous shoes, but I doubt all seven would be able to walk in them. Maybe you can find a shorter pair and have them choose between this pair and the other one?

    Post # 14
    2441 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Can all the girls walk in high heels? Will they want to?

    Will the girls be uncomfortable if they are taller than their groomsman?

    Well the groomsmen be uncomfortable if their bridesmaid is taller than them?


    Post # 15
    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would ask your bridesmaids, definitely.  I can’t even remotely walk in 3 inch heels, let alone 4.  You don’t want their feet to be killing them all night, either!

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