(Closed) Is 5 Bridesmaids too many? 10 in our Bridal Party (POLL)

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Add my brother and his wife to the bridal party?

    Add them (5 Bridesmaids and 5 Groomsmen)

    Dont worry about adding them. They can be Godparents one day and do a reading at the church.

  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017 - The Summit Country Day School Chapel/The Hilton Netherland Plaza Hall of Mirrors

    I have 5 bridesmaids and my Fiance has 5 groomsmen. I think that’s a pretty standard number. 

    Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    whitebridetobee :  5 is not too many, but 4 is certainly not too few either. My feeling is if you’ve already started making arrangements (cars, head table) then it’s not worth the change. Also presumably they know you’ve asked the others; and they won’t be expecting it because they didn’t ask you. 

    You haven’t mentioned if Fiance has a sister or sisters, but if he does, I definitely wouldn’t add your brother and his wife.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    If you have 2 brothers, I wouldn’t ask just one. Even if the older one isn’t expecting to be asked, being the only sibling left out of the bridal party could still be a little hurtful for him – regardless of whether he ever says anything or not. Plus, I am with PPs that if you have already started planning and adding in extras would mean having to rearrange these plans, I wouldn’t worry about it. Besides, they likely know that you’ve asked your bridal party already and might feel like you’ve added them in out of pity or obligation or whatever.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Just ask them to do a reading. It’s still an honor. I wouldn’t bring up anything about being godparents because you are not actually pregnant and don’t have a child yet, so that “offer” might seem a bit like you’re trying to give them a consolation prize.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee

    following as i’m in a similar spot…

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee

    I don’t think 5 is a lot. We have 5 each.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

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    whitebridetobee :  You know him better than we do, but I still think that asking all but one sibling is a bad idea (6 years really isn’t all that much age difference in the scheme of things). I have 4 younger siblings – a full sister (2 years younger), a full sister (13 years younger), a half brother (18 years younger) and a half brother (21 years younger). If one of my little brothers was getting married and included all my siblings but me I would still be pretty hurt, regardless of the age difference.

    Post # 12
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I have 5 bridesmaid and my Fiance had 5 groomsmen. I feel like it’s the perfect number! I say go for it. 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee

    I don’t think 5 is too many BUT. I think the questions to be asking is if your Fiance would be comfortable with the addition to his bridal party (his side his choice) and if you can afford the extra people. There’s cost to be considered such as bouquets, transport, maybe makeup if you’re doing that, accomodation and other misc expenses.

    Post # 14
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I don’t think 5 is too many. I’m having 6 and it’s actually because we both have sisters (and no brothers!) So I think he actually might be having less than me. I think as long as your comfortable with it and want those people up there with you the actual number doesn’t really matter!

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