Post # 1
This is my first time posting. I have been contemplating having a vow renewal for our 5 year anniversary in Jan 2020, I have been reading online and it seems that some people say it is too early and some say its ok to do. We eloped the first time around, we were quite young, did not have the money to have a wedding and needed to get married because of insurance, moving stuff so we eloped. Our families were not too upset or anything and they understood. I don’t regret that we eloped but I do feel some type of way about not having nice pictures and celebrating with friends and family. Lately alot of my friends/family have been getting married with huge weddings and I feel like I missed out. Husband is ok with it but he thinks that 5 years might be too soon and we should wait till 10 years but he said if I want to he would be ok with it. Keep in mind, if we did go ahead and do it, it would be close family and friends only and I would love to do it as a surprise vow renewal so no one would be expected to gift us anything.
Post # 2
If you want to do it and have the funds, go for it! Especially since you eloped. I also love the idea of it being a surprise!
Post # 3
I think an anniversary party would be better, no vows. Imo 5 years is too soon for a bow renewal.
Post # 4
No way! Love has no timeline. Especially since you eloped the first time… I say go for it! Who doesnt want to celebrate love and happiness?
Post # 5
I have 3/3/3/2 votes, its so even
Post # 6
As long as you don’t expect gifts this time round then I say celebrate how you want.
Post # 7
If it’s just something small and private btw your husband and yourself, you can do whatever you want. But if you’re going to invite guests and have a party and all that, I agree with your husband that 5 years is too soon.
Post # 8
sarajane1877 : The answers aren’t even. There are 3 optins for yes, and 1 option or no.
Sorry to be a pain.
Post # 9
cherryberrypie : Maybe i miss worded it? English is my second language.
I meant it as
is 5 years too early for vow renewal Yes/NO
yes it is too early, do private vow renewal with pcitures
Yes it is too early, do an anniversary party instead
Post # 10
Mrs_Beer : we absolutely dont want gifts. We have everything we need, we absolutely will not register. That is one of the reasons why I wanted to do it as a surprise as well so people would not be able to gift us anything because in my circle they would bring gifts for anniversary party or even a vow renewal even if we said no gifts on the invitation.
Post # 11
Just do an anniversary party. Vow renewals are really awkward when the marriage has been so short— are your current vows wearing out and getting tired? And if you feel you must have a vow renewal, don’t make it be a surprise. As a guest, I’d feel like you were trying too hard to be unique/trying too hard to get attention.
Post # 12
sarajane1877 : I’m not really a fan of vow renewals at any point. I feel like your vows shouldn’t run out. But I don’t see anything wrong with anniversary parties, at any stage. However, if you do them annually or every 5 years I’d just really make it clear it’s celebrate with people and not for gifts.
Post # 13
I think a formal anniversary party would be better received!
Post # 14
Chiming in again to say that if your husband thinks it’s too soon, even if he goes along with this and acts like a good sport about going along with it, he’s likely to feel awkward and self-conscious during your vow renewal. This alone would make me wait on doing this.
Post # 15
I totally dont get the point of a vow renewal at all. You renew your vows every day you stay together. It just seems like an unnecessary show to put on, particularly when you’re talking about professional photos etc. Five years is not a big deal.
Sorry to be a wet blanket.