is 5 years too early for a vow renewal?

posted 4 months ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Is 5 years vow renewal too early?
    Yes : (27 votes)
    32 %
    No : (20 votes)
    24 %
    Yes, do a private renewal with nice pictures instead : (13 votes)
    15 %
    Yes, just have a anniversary party instead : (25 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 2
    224 posts
    Helper bee

    If you want to do it and have the funds, go for it! Especially since you eloped. I also love the idea of it being a surprise!

    Post # 3
    830 posts
    Busy bee

    I think an anniversary party would be better, no vows. Imo 5 years is too soon for a bow renewal. 

    Post # 4
    981 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    No way! Love has no timeline. Especially since you eloped the first time… I say go for it! Who doesnt want to celebrate love and happiness?

    Post # 6
    8813 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

    As long as you don’t expect gifts this time round then I say celebrate how you want. 

    Post # 7
    871 posts
    Busy bee

    If it’s just something small and private btw your husband and yourself, you can do whatever you want. But if you’re going to invite guests and have a party and all that, I agree with your husband that 5 years is too soon. 

    Post # 8
    1110 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    sarajane1877 :  The answers aren’t even. There are 3 optins for yes, and 1 option or no. 

    Sorry to be a pain.

    Post # 11
    7418 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Just do an anniversary party. Vow renewals are really awkward when the marriage has been so short— are your current vows wearing out and getting tired? And if you feel you must have a vow renewal, don’t make it be a surprise. As a guest, I’d feel like you were trying too hard to be unique/trying too hard to get attention.

    Post # 12
    2064 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    sarajane1877 :  I’m not really a fan of vow renewals at any point. I feel like your vows shouldn’t run out. But I don’t see anything wrong with anniversary parties, at any stage. However, if you do them annually or every 5 years I’d just really make it clear it’s celebrate with people and not for gifts.

    Post # 13
    794 posts
    Busy bee

    I think a formal anniversary party would be better received!

    Post # 14
    871 posts
    Busy bee

    Chiming in again to say that if your husband thinks it’s too soon, even if he goes along with this and acts like a good sport about going along with it, he’s likely to feel awkward and self-conscious during your vow renewal. This alone would make me wait on doing this. 

    Post # 15
    4317 posts
    Honey bee

    I totally dont get the point of a vow renewal at all. You renew your vows every day you stay together. It just seems like an unnecessary show to put on, particularly when you’re talking about professional photos etc. Five years is not a big deal. 

    Sorry to be a wet blanket. 

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