Post # 1
I’m trying to plan my 25th birthday and there’s a show I’ve always wanted to go see. It’s like a dinner show type of thing. The show is $12 and the dinner is $30 (they make you order off a fixed menu).
For my friends birthday in Feb, we all went wine tasting. It cost us $60 each for the limo, $15 for a vodka tasting and $10 for wine, so we spent about $85-90 each. That’s why initially I didn’t see a problem with my plan but now I feel bad.
im looking into hiring a limo but I may just pay for it myself so they would be responsible for the $42 show and dinner. Id also buy drinks for the limo.Is that too much to ask? I know if they don’t want to, they won’t come, but I want to know up front if its unreasonable and I should just make another cheaper plan 🙂
Post # 3
@MrsCreeToBe: I personally wouldnt mind it, especially if I knew of the price in advance. Since you are getting the limo I feel I’d be more than willing to spend the rest just to celebrate with you even though I dont make a lot to begin with.
Post # 5
Why would you feel bad? As long as you tell people the plan and $ ahead of time, they’re all adults and can make the decision on if they want to go or not. You’re taking care of the limo and drinks, which is really nice of you! I don’t think it’s a problem at all.
Post # 6
Not at all… It’s one day, your friends should be able to handle that.
Post # 8
I would happily pay it plus more. The idea of buying my friends a limo and stocking it with booze for MY birthday would depress me, but to each their own. I think $50 for a night out is very reasonable.
Post # 9
Not one bit especially since it sounds like a lot of fun! If its your friends cup of tea they should be okay as well just give them heads up for those who might be on a tighter budget.
Post # 10
id happily pay for the show and dinner…but not a limo (since you said you *may* pay, not that you def would)/ because if you paid – id think it was a fun extra. if i had to pay id think it was a bit self indulgent given its not a major birthday
Post # 11
Thanks everyone! The limo isn’t meant to be indulgent, but the show is an hour away from us (in a city, we are in the suburbs) and you have to either drive (can’t fit them all in my car) or take a train for $30 a ticket anyway. So I figured hiring A limo is the easiest
Post # 12
@MrsCreeToBe: As long as you tell people the costs in advance, and as long as you won’t be upset if people can’t afford to attend, then I think you’re fine. Personally, I wouldn’t be comfortable spending that much (life on a tight budget!), so I’d have to pass.
Post # 13
$50 is nothing for me, but it may be for others.
I think @LittleByLittle: suggestion “As long as you tell people the costs in advance, and as long as you won’t be upset if people can’t afford to attend, then I think you’re fine.” is the best way handle it.
Post # 14
All you are doing is asking…it’s not like you are forcing them to come and pay that. If they can’t afford it so are unable to come then hopefully you would respect that. Are you giving them plenty of notice? I tend to like some notice for things that may potentially be expensive so I can put some money aside.