(Closed) Is 6 hours too long for ceremony, cocktail hour and reception

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Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My ceremony was at 3pm 🙂 

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Our ceremony was at 4:30 and we had the music end at 10. I think it was a good amount of time. 

Post # 18
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Busy bee

We had a 3 o’clock ceremony and I’m glad we were able to get ready at our leisure and didn’t feel rushed that morning.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Mine is going to be 7 hours…which I’m a tad worried is too long, but my fiancee is from the UK and weddings there go on FOREVER, so we are kind of splitting the difference.  The last wedding I went to was 5 hours and felt too short!  

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee

Our entire wedding lasted about 5.5 hours.  Ceremony started at 4:30 and reception was over with at 10pm.  So 6 hours is a pretty decent amount of time.  Some guests will leave early while others will close the place down.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I do not know where you are from, or what is the norm there. But I think the norm where i am from is wedding in the afternoon ( Mine is at 2) and reception will end at midnight

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

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Buttercup014:  Where are you from?  Sounds like you most likely are having a gap somewhere in there, which is not very considerate to your guests.

If not, that is going to be one hell of a party.  As a guest I would need to take nap some where around dinner to be able to make it all the way to midnight.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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freckles071611:  I am from British Columbia Canada. There is a gap for guest from 3-4:30. The gap has nothing to do with being inconsiderate of my guest. Most people know there will be a gap which is where the bride, groom, family and wedding party take photos. It is pretty standard! I am sure not not all the guest will stay until midnight!

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

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freckles071611:  UK bee here. Weddings here are typically 12 hours, and usually there isn’t much of a gap at any point; we had an hour between our sit-down meal and evening reception for guests to rest or get changed (pretty standard as a lot of guests do get changed/freshen up), but that was it (and the bar was still open). I find the idea of a wedding being like 5 hours so weird, it was totally new to me when I joined the Bee.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

6 hours is pretty typical–don’t worry about it!

Better than the 6 hour gap between ceremony and reception being discussed in another thread. 🙂

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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MelissainNC:  Ours is the same. Wishing we were able to add on more time!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee

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Buttercup014:  Here in the US we call that cocktail hour and the guests are hosted while the wedding party and parents take pictures.  So no gap whatsoever.

Post # 28
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Honey Beekeeper

This is regional, but where I live, yes, it would be considered a long wedding. If your Future Mother-In-Law knows her family and friends, I would certainly take that as a guide for their expectations. Here, evening weddings are almost universally five hours long. An hour for cocktail hour and a four hour reception are normal. Afternoon weddings run four hours total. The concern is  people would be leaving before the end. 

Keep in mind that etiquette-wise guests are not supposed to leave until after the cake is cut. 

ETA I see your timeline includes the ceremony. These usually don’t last a full hour, but that puts your reception much closer to typical for my area. 

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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mbanister:  not too early! We started our ceremony at 5, cocktail hour started at 5:30, we had the venue until 11, and then a large group of us went to a nearby bar and closed that bar down at 3AM. Our friends are saying we should do that again! Ha. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee

Our ceremony starts at 5, cocktail hour is 6-7, and our reception is 7-11, so six hours total here! The only issue I have with ours being so long is that we only get our photographer for eight hours, so I’m trying to figure out when I want her to show up/leave and what photo ops I’m willing to sacrifice. We are having a first look.

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