(Closed) Is 7 bridesmaids too many? I have a dilemma….

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

how many groomsmens do you have? are you having a big wedding? i am not a big fan of large wedding parties but there is not a big difference between 6 and 7…i think you are fine. πŸ˜€

good luck

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

In the past I would have said “the more, the merrier”, but now, after paying for my daughter’s $300 bride’s maid’s dress… I would have to say-

If you are inviting friends to be bride’s maids, you need to compensate them in some way.  It is now incredibly expensive to stand in someone’s wedding, especially if you count the cost of shower gifts, dresses, etc.  They should receive a nice Bridesmaid or Best Man gift, in my opinion.  Each of these folks, BMs and GMs recieve a pricey gift from the family too- so if it were me again, I would keep it simple.  By The Way, in 1977, we had two men and women on each side.  It was quite nice.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

i say if everyone in your wedding party is special to you then go for it. πŸ˜€

do what makes you happy…dont worry about what you are supposed to do..

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had 7 bridesmaids so I obviously don’t think there is anything wrong with it πŸ™‚

The only problem I can think of was that I wasn’t able to buy them all as nice of gifts as I would’ve liked, but they ended up loving their gifts anyways and it was no biggie at all!

I say go for it!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

In my opinion, if a bride wants to include all the women that are close to her in her wedding, that is her choice and the size of the wedding party doesn’t matter.  I am having 8 BM’s along with my Maid/Matron of Honor.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend, 6 of my BM’s are very close friends and the other 2 are my fiance’s sister and niece.  I sent them all DIY “will you be my bridesmaid?” cards and a personal note .  I think that was far more touching than calling or emailing them.  As most of my BM’s live in another states, I am keeping in contact with them via email regarding wedding info and my Maid/Matron of Honor, who lives nearby, is helping me with planning.

 

By The Way, one of my best friends had 12 BMs…. and that wasn’t a big fancy royal wedding…

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i’m having 7 bridesmaids! my moh is my best friend post-college, 3 college friends, 1 high school friend, my sil, and fsil. it doesn’t seem like too many to me, but then again we’re all pretty low-key/non-drama. bm bouquets are kind of expensive, but since there are so many bouquets we don’t need any non-personal flowers at the ceremony site, so it evens out! πŸ˜‰

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

a lot of people I know have 8, so I dont think it’s bad.  I think you should include her, because it sounds like you really want to πŸ™‚  And since you already have an extra groomsman to pair it out, it works perfect!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am having 7. The only thing i would be concerned about is asking someone after everyone has been asked……i think that can often cause problems/unwanted drama. You know how girls can get. People don’t like being an add-on. but if you think that J won’t mind then i say go for it!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was one of 7.  We were quite the troupe.  It actually made the bachelorette party much cheaper since it was split 7 ways!  Overall, it is a lot, but if they’re all really important to you, I say go for it!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

i am having way too big of a party but i dont know what to do 10 girls and jr bm…it is my sis his two sis…and my close girlfriends and one cousin…only one im considering shouldn’t be in it b/c we dont hang out as much….but i think it would be insulting.  btw only 6 guys…but i don’t know how else to do it….is this unheard of….and I am planning on picking the dresses is that okay….or do you have to let the girls do it?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have 7 bridesmaids.  Every one of them is important to me.  We’ve been together for 7 years, so I tell him I got to ask one girl for each year he didn’t propose.  Obviously this wasn’t true, but it’s a long-standing joke.

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