(Closed) Is 9 bridemaids to many?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4753 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

way too many…

consider logistics… you have to get them in a dress (goodluck with that- review posts about nasty Bridesmaid or Best Man who refuse, fight, ignore brides for vaious reasons). getting them together at any point in time, the more there is the harder it is. the consider cost: they all get gifts… that’s expensive if you ask me.

Post # 4
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No! I have 8

Post # 5
7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

yes. you can give people other roles in the wedding

Post # 6
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do what you want.  I’ve been in bridal parties of that many.  Just remember you will have to buy gifts for all the girls, which can be expensive and it’s a lot of people to coordinate.  I personally didn’t want that many people around me prior to getting married but if you want all those people there have them!

Post # 7
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just went to 2 wedding with 110 guests and both had 9 bm gm. It looked fine. Both had ceremonies in big churches. Maybe that has something to do with it looking like “too many” I am having 9 bm gm and guest list is at 228

Post # 8
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah 9 for a wedding of 120 is way too many.  Would your man have 9 guys as well?  That means 20% of your guest list is your wedding party.  WAY too many.

Since your Fiance wants his sister “incorporated” why not make them readers or let them organize the rehearsal dinner or just SOMETHING else?  9 is way too many in my opinion. 

We’re having 100 guests, and we’re each having 2.  So including us, our bridal party is 6 people, or approx 5% of the wedding total. 

Also, I would hold off on asking until like maybe January.  And also until you have a solid plan, and you’ve had that solid plan in place for like a month, incase you change your mind.  You don’t want to ask all 9 of them, and then think”Ahh…. I rather would have had 4″. 


Post # 9
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

When 25% of the guests are in the wedding, the honor of being involved is diminished, IMO.  But I can understand the difficulty in possibly hurting someone’s feelings.

Post # 10
5837 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

For me yes, that means a 20 person bridal party before you even get to flower girls/ring bearers. I’d find a way to give them other roles in the wedding.

Post # 11
4485 posts
Honey bee

9 is alot and guests will wonder what your intentions are. Generally, the rule of thumb is 1 attendant per 50 guests.

Post # 12
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@stephanie210: For me, thats alot but if those are the ladies in your life that you want to be there for you on your special day, then its perfect


Post # 13
2700 posts
Sugar bee

IMO nine people is too many to keep tabs on. This is coming from someone who had six BMs. However, there are a lot of other things that special people can do to be a part of the wedding.

Post # 14
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think if you are close to all of them and want them to be standing up with you then that is not to many. Go with your gut! Its your wedding!!

Post # 15
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think nine is a lot, but if you want them all, go ahead!  I have seven for my 100 person wedding.

Post # 16
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

If you’re close to all of them, I don’t think 9 is too many. Go for it :o) 

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