Post # 1
Initially I thought it was too many girls but the more I think about it, the more it makes sense? See my SO has three sisters that he wants to incorporate in the wedding, and I have a sister as well. Which already gives me 4, then my best friend which will be my MaidOH, and then my MatronOH which is my sister-in-law/good friend.
Then I have 3 other really good friends that have been in my life for what seems like forever and it just feels right having them be a part our day. I see them, and talk to them less often then my of two girlfriends. But definitely more than I talk to my SO sisters. I’m so torn.
We are planning on having 100-125 guests. Is 9 too many bridesmaids?
Post # 3
way too many…
consider logistics… you have to get them in a dress (goodluck with that- review posts about nasty Bridesmaid or Best Man who refuse, fight, ignore brides for vaious reasons). getting them together at any point in time, the more there is the harder it is. the consider cost: they all get gifts… that’s expensive if you ask me.
Post # 5
yes. you can give people other roles in the wedding
Post # 6
Do what you want. I’ve been in bridal parties of that many. Just remember you will have to buy gifts for all the girls, which can be expensive and it’s a lot of people to coordinate. I personally didn’t want that many people around me prior to getting married but if you want all those people there have them!
Post # 7
I just went to 2 wedding with 110 guests and both had 9 bm gm. It looked fine. Both had ceremonies in big churches. Maybe that has something to do with it looking like “too many” I am having 9 bm gm and guest list is at 228
Post # 8
Yeah 9 for a wedding of 120 is way too many. Would your man have 9 guys as well? That means 20% of your guest list is your wedding party. WAY too many.
Since your Fiance wants his sister “incorporated” why not make them readers or let them organize the rehearsal dinner or just SOMETHING else? 9 is way too many in my opinion.
We’re having 100 guests, and we’re each having 2. So including us, our bridal party is 6 people, or approx 5% of the wedding total.
Also, I would hold off on asking until like maybe January. And also until you have a solid plan, and you’ve had that solid plan in place for like a month, incase you change your mind. You don’t want to ask all 9 of them, and then think”Ahh…. I rather would have had 4″.
Post # 9
When 25% of the guests are in the wedding, the honor of being involved is diminished, IMO. But I can understand the difficulty in possibly hurting someone’s feelings.
Post # 10
For me yes, that means a 20 person bridal party before you even get to flower girls/ring bearers. I’d find a way to give them other roles in the wedding.
Post # 11
9 is alot and guests will wonder what your intentions are. Generally, the rule of thumb is 1 attendant per 50 guests.
Post # 12
@stephanie210: For me, thats alot but if those are the ladies in your life that you want to be there for you on your special day, then its perfect
Post # 13
IMO nine people is too many to keep tabs on. This is coming from someone who had six BMs. However, there are a lot of other things that special people can do to be a part of the wedding.
Post # 14
I think if you are close to all of them and want them to be standing up with you then that is not to many. Go with your gut! Its your wedding!!
Post # 15
I think nine is a lot, but if you want them all, go ahead! I have seven for my 100 person wedding.
Post # 16
If you’re close to all of them, I don’t think 9 is too many. Go for it :o)