(Closed) Is a 3 year old too young to be my flower girl??

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is a 3 year old too young to be a flower girl, walk up the aisle?



  • Post # 3
    588 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Our flower girls were 3 and 5- it helped that the 3 year old was happy to just follow her sister. 

    Our ring bearers were 6 and 2- the 2 year old never made it down the aisle. 

    Each kid is different, it will honestly all depend on how they are feeling that day- just have a back up plan in case she is shy…. and another parent with candy at the front of the aisle 😉

    Post # 4
    38 posts
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My flower girl will be turning 3 a month after our wedding.  I am having her walk with her 5 year old brother who is our ring bearer.  I’m going into it with the mindset that if she walks, wonderful, if not, oh well life goes on.  As long as you’re not going to be heartbroken by her refusing to participate when it comes down to it, then go for it!

    Post # 5
    5166 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    my rule is if they cant make it down the aisle by themselves then they are too young.. even though its cute to see the really young ones doing, i personally dont like to see them being walked down the aisle by an adult who isnt in the bridal party just because at the last minute they were overcome by the sheer size of the crowd.. but like lemondrop said each kid is different and some can handle it better than others



    Post # 6
    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    No! 3 would be cute. She could get nervous, or panic, but that could happen to ANY kid. 

    Post # 7
    656 posts
    Busy bee

    I certainly hope not… my daughter is just about three and she is our flower girl. I’m hoping there are no huge tantrums, but I’m not too worried; she’s pretty stoked!

    Post # 8
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We have decided not to have a ring bearer or flower girl simply because our actual ceremony will be only about 20 people. Which is too bad because they can make a pretty cute little picture.

    When we were thinking of doing a bigger ceremony I felt like my godson’s Mom (my cousin) and my Future Sister-In-Law who has a daughter both thought their kids should be in the wedding. While both kids are adorable and I love them the will both be just under 2, 22 months and 23 months, the idea worried me. I had thought of having my younger sister (13) be the junior bridesmaid and I was going to have her on child walking duty, to make sure they both got done the isle. I think you’re on the right track having somebody walk down with her but will she want to part ways with her Mom once up in front? Or will she stand next to the Maid/Matron of Honor the entire time?

    Post # 9
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

    Mr. E’s niece will be turning 3 a month after our wedding.  She is attached at the hip to her dad, who is the best man, so we’re hoping she’ll walk to him at the end of the aisle.  If not, we’ll just have her sit with her mom and skip the walk.

    Post # 10
    500 posts
    Busy bee

    I would imagine that if she is walking with her mum, that she would be ok. In all honesty, the walk isn’t that long, so I would think that most 3 year olds could manage it.

    Post # 11
    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My flower girl was 3 and she never made it down the aisle even though her older sister was going to walk her (this was how we planned it). They get really overwhelmed that day so I would not recommend it. 

    Post # 12
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My niece, (almost 3) and my FI’s cousin (5) will be flower girls…. My Maid/Matron of Honor is the 3 year old’s mom, so if she won’t walk down the aisle with the 5 year old, she’ll hopefully go with her mom!

    Post # 13
    1387 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    It really depends on so many factors.  Kids at that age are totally unpredictable!  Tongue out

    Post # 15
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My flower girl will be  14 months and my ring bearers will be 15 months and 4 years. Yes i’m having 2 ring bearers, my only nephews and i know the Flower Girl and one RB is really young but i want them in it anyways….it will be fun to watch even if they don’t make it down the aisle.

    Post # 16
    8375 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    When my nephew was 2.5, he freaked out and went screaming down to aisle–it was b/c his mom was a bridesmaid and he completely flipped out about her walking away from him. So, I think it’s a good idea to let her walk with him =]. He was 2 when he was in our wedding and his grandma had to help him along. It was super cute–and once he saw his dad (a groomsman), he bolted down the aisle. So it’s good for them to have some guidance at that young age!

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