(Closed) Is a 3 year old too young to be my flower girl??

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is a 3 year old too young to be a flower girl, walk up the aisle?



  • Post # 32
    7429 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Our flower girls were 3 and 6, so the younger one (niece) just followed my cousin down the aisle.  It was really cute, cuz she just threw flowers exactly on top of my cousins instead of spreading them out! Our ring bearers were our nephews, 5 and 5 months at the time. The 5 year old pulled his baby brother down the aisle in a wagon and it.was.the.cutest.thing.ever!!! We really wanted all the kids to be in it, so I told my SIL if he could sit up by himself I thought it would be really cute and she was surprised that we wanted him to be in it. Hello, he’s our nephew and our godson as well, so hells yes we wanted him in it! We have such great pics of the kids, even the baby.  I’m so happy they were all a part of our day, and our nephew can say he was in a wedding when he was just 5 months old Laughing

    Post # 33
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think with alot of practice, she can do it!  My sister was also my Maid/Matron of Honor and her daughter who was three and a half by the time i got married was my flower girl. 

    We made her practice smiling and walking and holding something in her hands. we explained that alot of people will be looking at her and its not nice to stare at the floor while walking. it took a few lessons and she got it.

    Post # 34
    2530 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I didnt vote because I think it totally depends on the child. Our flower girl was 4 and even at 3 she would have been big enough to do the flower girl thing – she was actually in a wedding at 3.5. Our ring bearer was 3.5 and he wasnt even able to hold our ring pillow – the one that I spent 25 minutes making! haha but its ok – again, I think you or the child’s parents will know best of what their ability is

    Post # 35
    58 posts
    Worker bee

    I was a flower girl when I was 3…bribed with m&ms at the end of the aisle

    Post # 36
    3761 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I agree that practice and some bribery will work great!!  We had candy at the end of the isle which helped.  They just went and sat down with their parents after we got to the front and the actual ceremony started.  They would have been too fidgity to stand at the front for the whole ceremony.  Just the five minutes they were up they they were getting bored.  

    Talk about it a lot in advance and let them know as much as you can what the day will entail.  Make sure she knows that lots of people will be looking at her, she has to walk slow, smile etc.  All of this in exchange for getting to do the fun “big girl stuff” like holding flowers, wearing a pretty dress, and getting their hair done.  

    Post # 37
    336 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We are having FI’s nephew as a ring bearer at age 2. I honestly think he’ll be able to walk by himself. He is the most social little thing. I know he won’t get nervous at the prospect of some silly little crowd. He’ll probably love it! =] We just intend to have FI’s sister calling him toward the front of the aisle if any problems arise. I would say that it depends on the child.

    Post # 38
    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I can only speak from personal experience that having our 22 month old nephew in our wedding party was awesome. I think whether or not it will work totally depends on the child and their personality. My nephew loves to be the center of attention but he also gets really shy around strangers and he has his moods. It really could have gone either way and I was mentally prepared for that. I asked that an adult to remain at the back of the church in case he had a melt down to keep him from disrupting the ceremony. They were also there in case he froze… they could just carry him down the aisle. I made sure to get him a couple little “quiet” toys that he really enjoyed and had his mom keep them at the front of the church for him. One thing I would HIGHLY recommend is having them take a seat once they walk to the front. Even 15 minutes of standing still is a long time for little kids. That way if they’re seated they can be distracted with food/toys/etc and they don’t become a distraction for your guests. I couldn’t image my day without photos like these…

    Post # 39
    2588 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    FH’s niece will be three, and we’re planning on having her as a flower girl. I’m totally prepared for the possibility that she might freak out and mom might have to rescue her, but that’s okay–it’s about her comfort level. If she gets to the door and decides, “Nope, not doing this,” that’s okay, too. She can sit with her mom. 🙂 Just be flexible, OP, and it should be fine.

    Post # 41
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Great pics Miss Riley! So adorable! 🙂

    My flower girl will be roughly 2 years old on my wedding. She’s my niece, and she will just walk with my sister, who is my Maid/Matron of Honor.

    Post # 42
    42 posts
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Our Flower girl is 2.5 and I learned recently hates dresses, haha. We will probably have a naked toddler running down the aisle.


    our ringbearers are 2, 1 and 5 and I’m putting the young ones in a wagon and hoping our flower girl will want to sit in it too

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