Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
My 30th is coming up in July, but my mum and my husband both think its just like any other birthday and that your 40th birthday is the next big milestone after your 21st.
I’m a little bit sad that they don’t think it’s a big deal as I was looking forward to celebrating a milestone birthday by doing something a bit special. I was hoping it might also make me feel a bit better about turning 30 – I’m not upset about it, just sorry to no loger be in my 20’s.
What’s your opinion? is a 30th birthday big deal or would you treat it like another year?
Also how would you celebrate? I’m not a party sort of person, but I had imagined doing something a bit bigger than I would for a normal birthday like a big family meal out or an experience day.
Post # 2
My 30th birthday was just another day. I went out to dinner with family/friends and had a good time. Just because others don’t do much on a birthday doesn’t mean that you can’t though. You can plan a potluck with family or go somewhere as a group like a Murder Mystery dinner or something. It’s your day so do what makes you happy! 🙂
Post # 3
I just turned 30 – (almost) welcome to the club!
I personally did nothing big for my 30th because I’m getting married this year, and already had a bridal shower and bachelorette that others were planning for me – so I figured I didn’t need another party to celebrate myself 😉 In general, though, I do think all the decade birthdays (30, 40, 50…) are a big deal.
A lot of my friends had bigger than usual celebrations for their 30th, and a couple people I know even did destination weekends or trips to celebrate. So – you’re not the only one who thinks it’s a big deal!
Post # 4
Splodge2003 : My mom always made a big deal about our birthdays, she said it was because my Granny did for their’s when they were growing up. In turn I also make a big deal about my kid’s. So much so they think the whole month is about them! Anyway, as I am sure you have already figured out, birthdays are important in my family and definitely ones where you start a new decade! We don’t necessarilly have big parties for every thing, but for my 30th my Fiance did take me out to a very nice dinner and dancing and by the end of the night I was so drunk (not that it takes much) that he was worried about me falling off the back of his motorcycle. Especially when we were riding through down town and I was yelling at every one that it was my birthday.
I say if you want something big, go for it, but tread lightly….it might be possible that they are planning to surprise you with something and are trying to play it cool. We got my brother really big last year by telling him the party was for my dad’s 60th. He still did not even realize it once they arrived, until he started looking around and saw all the 30 balloons.
Post # 5
For my 30th we didn’t do anything because I was getting married and had a bachelorette/shower, so we saved on a big party. This year on my 31st, I got a bunch of ppl together from my work and we had dinner and did an escape room. It was fun but not huge or crazy. Just a real nice night out with friends. 🙂
Post # 6
I think it just depends – I mean some people make a huge deal about every birthday (birthday weeks/months) others prefer to have it go by with the least amount of notice…. I can’t say either is right or wrong as long as you don’t expect too much from people (ie expecting 10 friends to fly to france to celebrate your 30th might be way overboard but asking 10 friends out to dinner or to a nicer than just the normal corner bar for drinks would be totally normal in my circle)
I often find that women care a lot more about this type of stuff than guys so if you want to plan an awesome day for yourself (get a new dress, take yourself for a massage/ mani /pedi then off to a fancy dinner w DH) then go for it – no reason not to (unless you have finance to worry about – I obvously wouldn’t go into debt for my birthday) but if this isn’t something that Darling Husband or your family normally does then don’t be sad/disappointed when it doesn’t happen
I learned early on that my Darling Husband isn’t one for a big deal (while I kinda am) so for years I did these big over the top birthdays for him only to spend my day an inch from tears since no one ever really got it right (friends tried and did their best but it just wasn’t what I wanted) so I finally decided that either I would plan it myself or just do my own thing alone (or with DH) and make it as spectacular as I wanted (for instance this year we did a combo bday trip to iceland! which was really freaking awesome)
Post # 7
I dont know why they think 40 is big but 30 isnt. 30 is a big birthday and once you get past 21 you pretty much have to wait a decade between each big birthday so its definitely worth celebrating while you can! I like to travel so for 30 I would look at a nice vacation or a city break somewhere new with a nice meal out when im there.
Post # 8
I think birthdays are more for children than adults. I mean, really. All I did was live another year. What kind of reward does that deserve? But then again, I don’t get the whole concern about aging. People who freak out about getting older,ought to consider the alternative.
If it means something to you, go ahead. Just don’t plan anything that implies that people are expected to bring a gift. Perhaps invite people to some sort of event without reminding them that it’s your birthday? Or, celebrate on a different day?
Post # 9
I like to celebrate each decade. So I went with a couple of friends to NYC for my 30th birthday. I was a bit down about not being in my 20s so I decided I’d bring in my 30s with a bang.
BUT, I think it’s up to the individual to decide if they want to make it a big deal or not.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica
We went to Vegas with some friends for my DH’s 30th birthday last month Yes I think 30 is a big deal but some people will disagree.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard
I think 30 is a big deal, on a personal level. For me it marks a turning point, leaving my twenties behind and solidifying who I am as a person. It’s more of a transition phase for me because I’m going to start trying for a baby shortly after my birthday, and I’ve been going through some mental and spiritual growth lately as well, as I approach 30. That being said, I’ll be in the middle of a stretch of night shifts on my birthday (7p-7a) so I won’t celebrate until a couple of days later by going out to dinner with my husband and in-laws most likely. So for me, it’s a big deal personally but not in how I celebrate it. I don’t ever do big birthday celebrations for myself because I tend to “turn inward” on that day and like to have some down time / quiet time only spending time with those I am closest with.
Post # 12
Splodge2003 : My husband didn’t think so. HOWEVER, I know for a fact I will probably cry in a corner somewhere. Not because I think it’s old, because it’s not. But because 30 marks when we definitely will not have any more children anymore and that our oldest will be nearing the double digits!
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I don’t judge people who have a big party for their 30th! Who doesn’t love a good party? I have had a couple friends throw 20s themed parties to say goodbye to their 20s, and another who did a “nerdy dirty 30” party. I’m actually going to a big 30th birthday party this weekend! You do you!
I didn’t have a birthday party because my 30th was the day after my wedding.
Post # 14
I don’t even remember my 30th birthday. My 40th is coming up and I don’t expect a big deal for that day either.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
Well I’m glad to see I’m not the only one who thinks its worth celebrating. I usually let other birthdays pass over without too much fuss, eg: I would probably treat myself to a nice day out somewhere with my husband or a friend and I don’t expect any fancy presents – I’m just disappointed that even though I’ve told them I feel ike turning 30 is important to me that they have brushed it off.
I’m more than capable of organising my own celebration and my best friend agrees I should definitely celebrate a little more for a landmark birthday, I just would have liked it if the two people I’m closest too thought it was important too. Looks like it will just be me and my friend doing something instead! 🙂