Post # 1
We will be getting married August 7th in Los Angeles. We have already found our Reception site and I thought we had found our Church as well. Here is my dilemma. The church that I have found is exactly what I always envisioned for my Wedding. It is GORGEOUS!!! It has French/English Gothic Architecture. To make things even better it is 8 minutes from my Reception site! The only problem is that we are getting married on a Sunday to cut some costs. This church has a 3:00 service and won’t be available for us to begin set up until 4:30. If we choose this church the Ceremony will begin at 6:00 and go till around 6:30. There would be an 8 min drive to the Reception where guests will be greeted with cocktails and hourderves. Cocktail hour would go from 6:30-7:30. Dinner would be served at 8:00 and the party would go on until 12-12:30 am.
My question……is an 8:00 dinner too late? There will be no children other than the 2 flower girls and the ring bearer.
Please give me honest opinions. I still have a little time to find another church if needed.
Post # 3
Nope not too late at all. Most people will look at the invitation and see 6pm, and if they need to eat they’ll just have a snack before the ceremony. And its not like you’re not offering cocktails/appetizers before dinner either. I’m pretty sure adults can wait forty minutes for food.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s too late at all. I think you should make people aware of the schedule though, just so they’re prepared to wait a little later than usual for dinner (especially the older folks like my grandparents who eat at 5:30 normally lol). And for the little ones just make sure that you bring some snacks so they don’t get grouchy!
Post # 5
Are you planning to do major decorating? If the church already has good bones, it may be very quick to just do simple decoration and you could push it back to 5:30. We only did a half hour of setup for our wedding.
That said, I don’t think 6pm is that late either. If people are aware that dinner won’t be until 8, most adults are able to adjust their meal schedule to accomodate a later dinner.
Post # 6
That would be on the late-ish side for us…but we usually get up at 4am, so we aren’t typical.
If people think it’s too late for a Sunday dinner, they will either take off the next day from work, or leave the reception early, so honestly I wouldn’t worry about it too much, and I definitely wouldn’t find a new church because of it!
Post # 7
Nope. I did mine under the same exact time line! We had tons of food at the cocktail hour too so there were no issues.
Post # 8
Why can’t dinner be served at 7:30 immediately after the cocktail hour?
I don’t think 8 is too late as long as your cocktail apps are fairly substantial.
Also, i’d make sure all your portraits are done before your ceremony if you want it to start so late. You won’t have much light afterwards.
Post # 9
On another note at 4:30pm we bought are only intended children, the flower girl and the ring bearer, happy meals. So that didn’t matter either.
Post # 10
not too late at all! our ceremony was really late–7:30 ceremony, with an 8:30-9:30 cocktail hour with hors d’oevres and dinner at 9:30! super late, but it had to be because of the rabbi’s restrictions on not getting married before sunset since it was a Saturday/shabbat. but none of our guests complained (to us at least)–we just made sure to tell them to eat a late lunch 😉
also we were married aug 7th of this year–we’re sort of date twins 😉
Post # 11
It really depends on how late you want the guests to stay. If most guests have to work on monday, they may not want to stay and party late on sunday night.
Post # 12
I’m also doing that same timeline (only we’re having the ceremony at the reception venue, and the ceremony is set for 6:30 PM with cocktail hour 7-8 and reception/dinner from 8-12). I don’t think it’s too late at all, especially since you’re doing a cocktail hour and I’m guessing there will be plenty of hors d’oeuvres.
Post # 13
@crayfish: You can’t serve it right away. People need to find their seats, and then there’s introductions, and your first dance. Maybe even specialty dances like father/bride and groom/mother. Most venues won’t run around with plates during these moments
Post # 14
There will be lots and lots and lots of hourderves : ) I agree Mwitter80! We would like people to find there seats and get comfortable and we would like to have our first dance after they announce us! We will be taking our pictures at Greystone Mansion before hand. The only thing we will do after the Ceremony are the Church photos and maybe a few at the Reception site…maybe. Most of our guest are out of towners and have already planned to take Monday off….which is nice. It gives them some time to recouperate after a night of dancing : ) Thank you for all of the input! I really appreciate it! I didn’t want to give up on this church….it is just too pretty : ) I posted a pic on my profile if you want to see why I was in such a dillemma : )
Post # 15
our wedding was much later than that. ceremony started at 7:30, CH from 8 – 9:15, and I don’t think dinner was served until around 10pm. no one complained at all – that’s pretty typical in my area for jewish weddings/sat night.