Post # 1
My venue has an option to start the reception at 7:30. Is this too late? By the time the guests are seated, and cocktail hour/half hour is over it will be 8:00. That seems awfully late to start dinner….. We are having a small wedding with <100 people, and a sit down dinner. I do like the idea of a candlelit reception, but I’m just concerned about making people wait until 8:00 for dinner. I have yet to decide if I will have my ceremony at the reception venue or a church.
What do you think??
Post # 3
our ceremony started at 7:30, which meant cocktail hour w/ hors doervres started around 8:30ish, and dinner was served at 9:30 (our reception site was a 4 block walk away). it was late, yes, but totally, totally fine! the guests all knew it was starting late, and we wrote on our website and welcome letters to out of town guests that they should eat a late lunch or afternoon snack 😉
Post # 4
I sure as heck hope 7:30 isn’t to late, because mine is at 8:00 on a Friday night 🙂 … I think you will be fine. If most people know they are going to a later wedding they will snack a bit before they go anyway…Thats what I have always done. The candel light dinner should be awesome!
Post # 5
I agree with @finnaroo – your guests will expect that dinner will be served late, and will eat accordingly earlier in the day. If it works for you, go with it!
Post # 6
Mine’s at 8. On a Sunday no less, albeit a holiday weekend. I don’t think it’s a problem. The times will be on the invite so they should eat accordingly.
Post # 7
@finnaroo: That’s my same itinerary. Everyone has been warned to eat a pre-meal if they are early eaters and train up for the late night a few in advance. I think they’re taking it seriously too.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! Whew!! It’s good to know that the start time isn’t too late! I like the idea of letting everyone know they need to eat something before the ceremony since dinner will not be served until later in the evening. Plus, I’m loving the idea of having candles everywhere! This could work! Yea!
Post # 9
My cocktail hour will be starting at 7pm and dinner will start around 9-930pm. I decided to have it later because we have small wedding and most guests are very close family and the reception place is an hour away , so thought to give extra time between ceremony and reception and more sunny time (hopefully) for us to take pictures.
Post # 10
i’m sure it will be fine. My reception will be starting at 7:30pm as well. I have always dreamed of having a nice evening wedding and I think that as long as people know in advance they will be fine.
And if you are like my fiance’ and I, on the weekends when we go to dinner it is always after 7:00pm .
Post # 11
@Ka393- We’re having a small wedding as well, just family and close friends, so I’m sure they will understand. I am a little worried about darkness setting in though, between ceremony and reception. I may do a first look to take advantage of the daylight.
@sheebsw I am definitely loving the pictures that I have seen of evening, candlit weddings, so I’m hoping mine will be just as nice. And we definitely eat late on the weekends! So, I’m hoping this will work out!
Post # 12
I think that’s totally fine. That’s when our reception is starting as well. I think we baby our guests too much. They are all adults. I’m sure they are capable of seeing what time the reception starts and planning their meals accordingly for the day so no one is starving.
Post # 13
I guess I’m in the minority. I’d assume that I should eat dinner BEFORE the reception if I was invited to a late reception.
Post # 14
@Meowkers You are so right! We totally try to baby our guests, and make sure EVERYTHING is perfect, or at least as close as possible!
@missrobots I would definitely eat something before the wedding if I knew the reception was later in the evening. But, I think that sometimes people see a wedding invitation, that is close to dinner time, and they don’t plan their day accordingly.
One good thing about having a small, intimate wedding is that I have no problem telling everyone to eat something before the wedding, because dinner will be served later than usual. Now, if I had 200 people attending, that would be a totally different story, and the etiquette police would definitely be watching me more closely! LOL!
Thanks for the input Ladies!
Post # 15
I think during the summer that is totally fine b/c people are usually on a little different schedule and used to eating later (at least that’s what it’s like around here).
We’re date twins (YAY!) and I’m planning a 6pm ceremony so our reception will start around 7:00/7:30 as well.