(Closed) Is a Bridal Shower "Double Dipping" for Gifts?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 93
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My shower was an amazing time with my favourite ladies. I wouldn’t have traded it for anything! 🙂

Post # 94
3256 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Since everyone has done it, since time immemorial, absolutely not.  Obviously do’t include registry details in invitations.

Post # 95
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Honestly, if you get a gift from someone at the shower, then you shouldn’t expect them to show up with one at the wedding also.  I don’t. 

Post # 96
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

They are super common where I’m from – friends of the brides mother usually offer to host. I don’t think they’re gift grabby unless

1. The bride or her mother is throwing it (yikes) or

2. They are HUGE. I’ve never been to one that wasn’t small and in someone’s living room. They’re lovely intimate parties, with only people the bride has known since childhood and close friends.

I’ve been offered (and accepted) an engagement party (which is 100% NOT a gift giving event) and a Christmas shower – where the hostess told me she’s going to ask people to bring a favorite recipie to share with me or a small ornament. I think that’s just lovely and I’m so excited! I have no shame about accepting the generous offer of either party.

Grabby would be if I asked for one, I’m so honored that people have been calling asking to throw me parties. Unfortunately, none of them can be a surprise because I’m currently living away from my hometown, so I have to fly home.

I have never heard of anyone bringing a gift to an engagement party, I would be absolutely HUMILIATED if someone brought a gift to mine. It just isn’t done where I’m from. It’s supposed to be a time for everyone to get to know each other! The only gift that will be at my engagement party is the one I bring to thank the hostess!

Post # 97
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@RobinGirl:  No, provided the bride or the host dobt loose their minds.

A shower is supposed to be a small celebration in whitch small presents are given to help usher a bride into a new phase of her life.  They’re fibre and fun.

However, if the guest list is large, or big, expensive gifts are demanded, or the worst – it’s a money shower, then yes, it’s gift grubby and greedy.

If your Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t want to invite her friends or relatives and these aren’t people you’re close too then respect her wishes and proceed as planned. 

Post # 98
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know someone who threw her own baby shower…that is gift grabby if you ask me!



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