(Closed) Is a bridesmaid luncheon really necessary?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I thought it was pretty standard to give the gifts at the rehearsal dinner… are you having a RD?

However, if you want to have a luncheon, their rift shouldn’t stop you from hosting one. Since you “recently learned” about their dislike for each other, it seems like they’ve both been civil out of respect for you! I’m sure they can suck up their feelings & enjoy celebrating with you 🙂 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

In my family, the bridesmaid luncheon usually is the women’s luncheon and it includes all female family members, and takes place a day or two before the wedding.  I’d say if you want to take them out before hand and give them their gifts together, do that.  I think it sounds really fun, and the two that don’t like each other can get over it.  they are in YOUR wedding for YOU, so they should get over themselves and be able to act civil for an hour lunch… they are going to have to be nice the entire day of your wedding – this would give them practice.  I think you should go for it!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oops, I think I mis understood your question.  No, a bridesmaid/women’s luncheon isn’t necessary.  As recessionista mentioned, a lot of people give the gifts at the Rehearsal Dinner.  I still think it could be fun to take them all out, but you could take them out individually too.  I’m not sure sure I was much help… maybe more confusing.  Sorry

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s definitely not necessary but in your case, it might help break the ice, considering they will have to get along and spend time together at your rehearsal and your wedding. I think most bridesmaids understand they need to make nice for the sake of the bride, and so this might be a good opportunity for them to practice, not to mention for you to “kill (how many bridesmaids you have) birds with one stone”. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Engineer- I think your advice was helpful! lol its true, her BMs need to get over it 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown

I would have one if you want it. If you don’t feel it’s necessary then don’t do it. I don’t think you should decide based on you finding out that two of your girls don’t get along. That’s their issue and hopefully they are mature enough not to let it ruin your wedding. I know I’ll be having some sort of get together mostly because my girls live in three different states. Good luck!

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