(Closed) Is a cash bar normal where you live?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

NYC – open bar is the norm.

 

Edited to correct typo.

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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delena76:  that is interesting because I’m in NYC too and I have never seen a cash bar. Fully open bar is the standard. Same with Chicago when I lived there. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island

Long Island- open bar is definitely the norm.

Its interesting to say that open bar is not the norm in NYC since on Long Island and Brooklyn/Queens, I’ve only seen open bars and found that its the wide assumption that all weddings would be open bar.

 

ETA: I live in New England now and I’ve found that while open bar is preferred, the farther north you go, the more acceptable it seems to have a cash bar haha.  Like in Boston, coastal RI, CT, and the Cape, I feel like open bar is the norm.  But as soon as you go to VT, New Husband, or Maine, cash bar seems to be more acceptable.  Especially once you get into western MA or rural areas of VT or ME.  Weird trend I’ve observed….

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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MrsBuesleBee:  oh damn that was a typo! LOL

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Central NY, and it depends on the crowd you’re with. I’ve been to both.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m in CA and have only been to one cash bar wedding. And the guest didn’t exactly love the idea. The place was so pricey I could barely afford to get a buzz. I would think open bar is more the norm here.

To cut cost I have seen people limit the types of alcohol but it’s usually always free and free flowing. I went to one recently where they only served Jamison, which was the grooms fave, a Syrah which was the brides fave, and beer to cut costs. Guests didn’t love the idea but they liked it better than a cash bar and were appreciative lol.

Free beer and wine would be the minimum I would be willing to go at mine, but Fiance and I agree the open bar is worth adding the $33 per person our venue charges for it so were doing full open bar with “you call its”. Our number one goal is for guest to have a good time. Our crowd is mostly young and likes to drink.

If I got an invite that said cash bar my first thought about it would be “awe man”. I do find it a little tacky, though I understand trying to cut costs. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I think this is based more on your family/friends than location necessarily. My parents wanted a full cash bar, my fiance’s wanted a full open bar, we’ll probably compromise by having open beer/wine only. We’re all from the west coast of the U.S.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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maritimebride2016:  I’m from Maine (so I guess kind of close to you). I haven’t been to a ton of weddings, but from what I’ve seen and what I hear, cash bars are very common. I’m not from a ritzy area, people don’t have a lot of money to spend. Many people get married and have their receptions at halls run by the Knights of Columbus or VFW, or similar with a cash bar. Honestly, before I started using this site, I would have never considered that cash bars were tacky. 

 

I’ve only been to one NYC wedding and it was open for beer and wine only before the ceremony, cash bar after. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

I’ve been to both, where I grew up there were a lot of cash bars, particularly the weddings in more rural areas. Where I live now, it’s less common, I havent been to an event with a cash bar in years. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

In both my geographic and social area a cash bar is considered a big No No.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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maritimebride2016:  Chicago suburbs…open bar is expected. NOBODY does a cash bar. It would be totally out of the norm. If finances are a problem people may only do wine or beer ect.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m in Scotland and cash bars are completely normal. Open bars are very unusual. Here, alcohol is normally provided by the hosts during the day (arrival drink, wine with dinner, champagne for toasting) but everything else is cash bar.

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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maritimebride2016:  British bee – totally normal. Been to about 12 weddings, all cash bars.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

NW USA, usually open bars but beer and wine only.  Maybe fittingly some of the fancier venues I’ve been to were cash bars, I think they over extended on venue and then couldn’t afford drinks.

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