(Closed) Is a cash bar normal where you live?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 121
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Newbee

Atlanta, Georgia – usually full open bar, but sometimes just beer and wine open bar.  Never, ever cash bar.  That just runs afoul of the whole southern hospitality thing! 😉

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Post # 122
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Ireland  here. We just call it a bar, everyone pays for their own drinks. You couldn’t possibly  afford to hold a free bar here.

Post # 123
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

NC – never heard of/seen/knew a cash bar was even a possibility before the Bee. 

Post # 124
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m from Minnesota, and cash bar is the normal. Maybe provide some wine or beer, but an open bar is basically unheard of. 

Post # 125
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Australia: beer, wine (red, white and sparkling) and soft drinks is the norm here. Sometimes people have spirits but most weddings I’ve been to either don’t have the option for spirits or they are available for purchase.

Post # 126
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I’ve never heard of a wedding with a cash bar until I joined the bee, the norm here is semi-open bar (beer/wine/cider/softdrink) I’m in Australia. 

Post # 127
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Helper bee

Another NJ lady here and open bar is the norm.  I’ve never seen anything but in my 40 years around here.  I have been to lovely backyard weddings where they just purchased alcohol for everyone and when it ran out it ran out but people also byob to that one.  It was a lot of fun! I would be fine with champagne for toasts and then wine on the table or even a cash bar if I was told in advance to bring money.  The only thing that would make me groan is a dry wedding.  I would for sure rather have cash bar than no bar! But then I won’t really dance much without a little something in my veins so I’d likely leave early at a dry wedding.

Post # 128
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Honey Beekeeper

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jz0909:  No one is saying that people can’t have or don’t “deserve” a wedding. They should just throw one that they can afford. There are many options to make that happen without resorting to  people taking out their wallets at a private party. 

Post # 129
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

From Maine and a cash bar is the norm. Sometimes you see it an open bar (for beer and wine only) for 2 hours then a cash bar after that.

All soda, coffee, tea, juice and other drinks are offered for free of course

Post # 130
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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weddingmaven:  The “deserve” comment wasn’t directed specifically at previous posters or intended to offend. My point was that from my perspective, (and based on my community/class/location and based on weddings I’ve been to), paying for alcohol is not a requirement for a wedding. For people in my family/circle, we would rather attend a wedding with 100 guests and a cash bar than say, miss out on my cousin’s wedding, if ettiquette were to dictate that he/she is only allowed to invite the maximum number of guests they are able to provide alcohol for. I think its fine for people of a different class/community/culture to understand weddings in a different way though. Ultimately our circles tend to be similar, this is probably why so many people who think only open bar is acceptable are writing that they have never even heard of the alternative, and visa versa!

Post # 131
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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Boxerlover24:  Agree.  Grew up in the ‘burbs, live in the city now.  Open bars are definitely the norm for the area and my social circle.

Post # 132
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Blushing bee

Australia: All weddings I’ve been to is open bar for wine/beer/non-alcholic drinks. Cash for any spirits. 

Post # 133
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Grew up in Michigan, currently living between NY and PA. Been to both cash and open bar, but the most typical seems to be a mix. Most weddings will offer one beer selection and one mixed selection, anything other than that you pay for. I don’t mind paying at a wedding, I would be paying regardless if I went out for a night out anyways. 

Post # 135
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’ve only been to open bar weddings except for one that was open bar during cocktail hour and switched to cash bar for the reception (in CA). My dad pushed for a cash bar saying people don’t mind it (let me add, he’s not paying for the wedding and is also from CA), but we already have a LOT of guests traveling for the wedding. The least we can do is provide them with food and booze! My Fiance and I are doing beer and wine. I don’t personally need or want people doing shots or getting sloppy. And also, beer and wine what we drink normally so it makes sense for us. Our wedding is in OK, and open bar is most common here because of antiquated liqour laws in the state. A lot of venues we spoke to won’t let you SELL booze or have a cash because it requires a liqour license, but you can have an open bar because there is no transation taking place. 

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